Yes. I am in exactly that position. My in-laws (since day 1) have always told me how much they love me. As a matter of fact at our wedding my H's father gave a toast and said "if our son hadn't asked vicki to marry him we were going to." He also said they loved me like their own daughter- not a daughter-in-law. Now, no one calls me, not even a letter. I'm not the one who left him. I was good to him. He has no good reasons to have left me. If I was a bad wife to him I could see why no one would talk to me but this just doesn't make sense. I am more angry at them than I am at my H. I think he's just stupid and confused. But what's their excuse? I understand no one knows what to say. But a rational adult would just say "Are you okay?", is there anything we could do for you?". They could send a thinking of you card. They could do anything! Instead they are selfish and self centered just like their son. I guess the apple doesn't fall far from the tree.

I hear`what you are saying Vicki. My stepdaughter has been here sooo many times declaring how much she loves me, and how I make her father happy. Talk about apple falling, I it turned into, one Big lemon..

My MIL too..easy to forget that I was the one calling her for the last 14 yrs, making sure that she was okay. Supported her through the loss of her husband. Took weeks off work to get her house ready to sell after he died. The list goes on and on..

I hear you to Che2, it feels like we have been erased. I understand loyalty, But Hello..