I don't have a solution. I am angry that my husband walked out on me and my 2 kids. It is very hard to cope with. Have you tried counselling, just for yourself? I am starting with individual counselling next week so that I can try to pick up the pieces of myself and move on to a happier life.

I understand the whole angery feeling. I seperated from my ex 7 months ago and am now divorced. For the first 2-3 months, I was angery about the fact they marriage failed. But with time the anger will fade. But there are little things that come up that rekindle the anger such as getting a bill in the mail for the gas company that he didn't have turned off in the house we use to live in after he told me he had done that. but with time it does get easier. Take care. Audrey

The anger will definitely start to fade. Sometimes it's easier, though, to be angry than to be sad. I think both emotions are definitely a step towards healing.

Forgive....forgive him, forgive yourself and channel that anger somewhere else. Feelings of anger must not be confused with pain for pain makes us stronger while anger blinds us. Use clear and constructive thoughts to realize that you can not change people, people change themselves. Breathe deeply and think as to why you are angry and you will realize that you can not control the events but you can control the reactions that you will be faced with. I read somewhere that even as our world may be crumbling around us, they will never take away hope, happiness, forgiveness and compassion. When you are faced with an angry thought reply to yourself it is just a memory that hurts and like memories they live in the distance..may you find your inner peace today.

It's okay to be angry. Just don't let it rule you. It's okay to grieve, but don't dwell in it. There is nothing that can change the past, but you can make your future. Exercize has helped me tremedously. I think I'm going to start yoga also. If I don't run some days I find myself more agitated and irritable.

Anger is part of the whole "grieving" process. There is no set order/time table to how we grieve and how often we return to different stages: denial, anger, bargaining, depression, and acceptance. I think you'll find a lot of people on DS will say that divorce is like an emotional rollercoaster. The good news is that you have people here to vent to and help get you through it. Counseling is a very good idea (it's been helpful for me!).

I still get angry, but mostly I am disappointed. I wouldn't let the anger consume you, but that's easier said than done.

My husband left me too, and im in my 7th month of pregnancy, i knwo your pain. they say it gets better with time, we can only pray keep the faith!

I've only been separated for a month, so I am still in the middle of my anger & hurt. Hugs

I wish someone would give that question an answer. It is very hard. I agree. Have you tried journaling?

I know how you feel, I've been there. At first I was hurt and sad, then got angry, now I go back and forth between anger and disgust. His behavior made it really easy for me to be glad that he finally came clean and left me. I am working toward the point where I can forgive him. I will do it for me and not him. I stopped trying to disect where we went wrong and just know that I acted with love and integrity in our relationship and he didn't. I can hold my head up and I refuse to let his horrible behavior dictate my emotions any longer. I deserve to be happy and I am going to do my best to make a life where my happiness is based on my goals, dreams and actions. In order to do this, I can't be angry or bitter. I know that the Kind of people who I want to be friends with and attract to me are happy, confident, and honest. People like that are not attracted to anger or bitterness. It has taken me 6 months to get to this point, with some highs and lows, but each day generally better than the one before. Hang in there, be patient, forgive yourself, have compassion for yourself, and most of all know that it will get better and easier. You will start to focus more on your happiness unstead of focusing on how he's made you unhappy. Good Luck!