My relationship with my husband started 10 years ago and was amazing. We got married almost 6 years ago and things for him started to get bad about a year ago with his heavy drinkng and dui arrest. He spiralled into a depression and his drinking was out of control. We seperated in October; he was pushing me away and I told him if he wasn't going to be there for me to love me to pack his bags and leave. I never thought he would actually do it. After he left he got much worse. He was able to function at work and that is about it. He even drank several drinks before work and who knows if he did at work too. Anyways, he finally got sober a month ago and is getting counseling and trying to get his life back in order, but I am tired emotionally. I have waited for my husband to get better and return home for almost seven months now and he is just taking his time with no hurry to see me more than once or twice a week. He says he loves me and is affectionate when we are together; no sex though. I have been extremely patient and supportive, but I have needs too and they are not being met at all. This past year has been all about him and his needs and I am tired of being left out and don't know if I should end this now or be patient a while longer since he has been only sober a month and is working on himself. So, how do you know when it should be over??? It is so hard because I do love him so much and the thought of divorce, splitting everything and living my life without him in it isn't what I really want, but what I am going through now is so painful and lonely. am I just being a pushover and prolonging the ineveitable? Any advise?
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