I have been separated for a half-year, the divorce is final next month. I honestly believe, and my therapist agrees, that I began "grieving" the loss of my marriage/relationship a year ago or sooner. I have taken a few baby steps on the social scene the past few months. I have met a few nice divorced gals and one in particular I have developed a huge crush on. I see her often -- she lives close by and we both take walks almost daily. She is involved in an off-and-on relationship with another guy out of town but recently told me she would say "Yes" if I asked her out. My question(s): How do I know is this is the "rebound relationship" I have been warned about, assuming anything even developed? How does one know when he/she is ready for a new relationship? Is it common to get strong feelings for someone within a year after a breakup? (I almost find myself "pining" for her, to steal a word from an old Herman's Hermits song.) Sometimes I feel like a sixth-grader who has encountered his first crush. Is it possible to develop "growth relationships" and strong friendships with people of the opposite sex without getting romantically involved? At least at my age (55) I am fairly up front about my feelings -- I don't stuff them like I used to. But I have journaled almost daily since I met this gal a couple months ago. It is a strange feeling inside -- very good at times, but at other times I feel like it's a warning to back off and take it easy. A lot of questions, I know ...
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