I am struggling with why I am trying to work my marriage out. My H and I have been married for 9 1/2 yrs and Dec 10 07 I found out he was having A with woman 28, I am 37 H is 39. He had been seeing her for 6mths and it was also a physical affair. He ended it the day I found out and we decided to work things out. Here's the problem I'm having. He was not a great H in the first place. Good qualities were he makes me laugh, he works full time, he is pretty good with my kids his step. He is good in bed. Bad things are, I do everything at home. Cook, clean, Pay bills take care of car, yard everything. He works 12hr shifts and has alot of days off which by the way was when he cheated while i was at work. Our yard needs alot of work since we built house in country, he does nothing. He feels that my kids should do all house work and laundry even his. I have only turned him down 2 times in 9 1/2 years for sex. I felt that we had a great sex life and I treated him like a king. He wants me to go back to that life and forgive him. I don't feel like he is still cheating. But I will never be 100% sure. I am on Wellbutrin for depression and for past 4 mths have really tried to move past A. I just don't think I will ever be happy in this marriage but I am terrified that if I say I want divorce then I will regret it. Any input or advice would be very helpful. I know this a choice only I can make but I am struggling every day with this.
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