Ok, well hell, im just going to save the keystrokes and just call him my X. But here's my issue. On the weekends my X is kid free, i cant get ahold of him for ANYTHING. However, when he has the girls, he'll call me at 6 am, looking for,needing, wanting, something. I dont ignore these calls as my children are involved and would feel i was a selfish, carless mother to do so. Although, it's always been trivial nonsense that he could handle. THEY NEED NOT SUFFER MORE. When i've tried to get ahold of him i get nothing. There was a time this Feb. that he agreed to take our oldest to sat. morn. bball. This was over texting and he was at the bar. He agreed to do it. The next morning, i tried to reach him early, figuring, he'd be out of it..finally i brained up and made other arrangements. Please, dont get me wrong. I am capable and would do it myself, but i have 5 under the age of 11, it was the bare ass middle of winter here and it would've taken me twice as long to bundle and boot and load then for Mr. Bachelor to run down and take her. Im tired of the burdeon always falling on me. Apparently he didn't care if she was dissapointed and missed bball...they don't have a lot to do with a stay at home mom of 5, ican't exactly show them a good time often. I don't want to ignore his calls because it involves my children, but, he doesn't reciprocate and i bend over backwards. Is this just another control thing? It it is that, then im scared, because i would never use my children in a way to get him to communicate with me or find out what he's up to. I think at times thats his motivation. If i did not respond it would not reflect well on me in his eyes, yet im expected to deal with his noavailablity and if i speak out about it i get hung up on and called names. How do i handle this bs?
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