
Breakups & Divorce Support Group
Just broke up with someone or in the midst of a difficult divorce? Breaking up is difficult no matter what the circumstances are. They say that time heals all wounds, but sometimes a listening ear or a hug can work wonders for the heart. Whether you need a place to vent, someone to hold you to No Contact, or need advice about what to do, we're here to help.

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How do you stop loving someone when they divorce you? How do you pull yourself back together again? When does the pain of everything stop and the healing begin. My husband is divorcing me after 15 years. We had a great marriage and he tells me he loves me. He has cheated on me and is having a relationship now and i dont know how to get over the hurt and betrayal. So much went on between us that i lost myself. How do i stop wanting to put my marriage back together again when i know that it cant be fixed. That he is unwilling to fix it. I have never been so confused in my life. I have never gone threw so many emotional upheavels.
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You will have a change in your feelings towards him when you are ready. You will start to put the pieces to the puzzle back together a little at a time. You cannot, realistically, walk away from 15 years with no feelings and had no preperation for it. You feel whatever you have to, anger, sadness, hope, whatever it is, you are entitled to it.
You will find yourself and, slowly, but surely, it will come back together for you. My thoughts are with you.
It is hard when you aren't the one who wants the marriage to be over, to let it go... but you have to because it takes two people to want to be married for a marriage.
The emotions are normal. Go with them and accept them for what they are. They are your mind's way of healing.
Be kind to yourself and focus on you. In time this will become easier to handle.