Trista,Sorry to hear your story
If he cheated just three months ago and now wants to seperate he has already made up his mind.
I tried to make my m work after my STBX cheated and after 4 long years of recovery she cheated again and left me
It may be the time for you to let him go before he causes you even more damage,I know how much damage was caused to me when I should have got her to leave after she first cheated.....I paid way too high a price!!

there is no easy way. the only way at all is to keep telling yourself all the reasons you deserve better, and keep reminding yourself that you can't make him do anything. i'm sorry you have to go thru this, but you can't change it, and it isn't your fault.

I'm so sorry for you, I went through that last weekend. The one thing that I can say is that it will be difficult, but the anticipation - what you are going through, is almost worst. I spent pretty much all of last Saturday in a fetal position crying, once I returned home. I couldn't even be here when he left. I spent most of the day on this sight, and people were really great. Sunday morning, I actually felt a bit better. I still cried on an off all day, especially when people called to ask how I was doing. But much as it hurt, it still felt as if a weight was lifted; there was no more anxiety, I had to accept that he had moved out. Since then every day has gotten better. I'm still very sad, but the acceptence that increases with each day, eases things. I think that I was in so much pain in anticipation of his leaving, it was a big sigh of relief when it was over -- in one way. I'll keep you in my thoughts - you'll make it. Without a doubt the week you are right now, was by far the worst for me. Hang in there, and stay on line here. People here helped my through all day Saturday and Sunday - take care of yourself.

I had no preperation for the day that he left. He just left. I called a friend, calmed the kids, and drank some wine. Amazingly enough..the sun came up the next morning.

I agree with julik, the anticipation is worse then when it actually happens. Unless your afraid he will take things you don't want him to have, I'd say get out of the house while he is moving. This separation, needing space are code words for I have someone else I want to play house with. At least that was how it was for me.

You can do this and down the road enlightenment will come to you. I wish the very best for you.

You cant make him stay. You may be able to cope by looking at him for who and what he really is instead of what you want him to be.

You want him to
love you, to stay and work it out, not to cheat.

He wants you to
Explore single life and other people, be away from you, maybe cheat again.

What you want is beautiful but what he is giving you is not. It will hurt when he leaves, it's supposed to. You have to remind yourself that for some reason that probably has nothing to do with you, he did not give you what you wanted.

he is not coming back, why
did he give you a specific
date if he didn't have anything planned, that's probably when her partner
is leaving. I never ever
got to know why mine left
after 47 years he never told
a soul. We are finally divorced and he still hasn't
told anyone, he doesn't even speak to my adult children
or his grandchildren, all because they won't respect
the woman that took him away
even tho she is younger than
all the kids, and 31yrs younger than him. He is playing mind games with you
and he is using you for a door mat, so that if this
relatioship doesn't work out
he'll come home for the sex
until he finds someone else.
It's a swing door for you
put a lock on it.

Mine left 2 weeks ago...I was in too much shock to do anything sensible, didnt even call anyone. I thought I would die - I didnt. I drank myself to sleep and the next day I called a friend and went to doctors who referred me to the psychiatric unit cos they thought I might harm myself. They then provided me witha 24 hour help line to call when I felt bad just to talk even 3a.m. Friends cooked me food. The first 3 or 4 days I shook uncontrollably all the time and my heart felt like it was in a vice. It still feels like that in the mornings...but it gets better. Just turn to anyone and everyone, keep talking, keep crying, try not to be alone - use up all your favours with friends and family to get their company. My neighbour helped a lot by telling me what she thought of my husband...and telling him when she saw him. What I am doing now is imagining my husband has died - the man who left me was not the loving man I married, he died a few years ago. So I am in mourning for that man who did die loving me...and the thing in his place is something else, mean, cold and selfish.

If he wants to experience the single life again then you must let him go. You can't let him keep you on the backburner until he realises you're the one...or not. That's not what a marriage is. You have to save yourself. It hurts like hell when you love the person and are committed, but let's face it : You are the only one committed. The day I let my marriage go, I sat down and became very silent. I did not cry. In fact I couldn't cry. It was the most excrutiating pain I had ever felt and I couldn't express it. What kind of a person puts you in that position? Take control, leave before he hurts you more.