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Just broke up with someone or in the midst of a difficult divorce? Breaking up is difficult no matter what the circumstances are. They say that time heals all wounds, but sometimes a listening ear or a hug can work wonders for the heart. Whether you need a place to vent, someone to hold you to No Contact, or need advice about what to do, we're here to help.

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My husband is an alcoholic and refuses to admit it. He stops drinking when we have major problems and promises to stop so that I dont file for divorce. We have been married for 7 years and have 2 kids. Before we were married he got a DUI and since we have been married he has gotten a DUI and 2 WARNINGS!! I can not respect this man and I am afraid that his reckless behavior is going to kill someone. I want out BUT it's so hard to take daddy away from the kids AND I dont know how I will do it financially. I always think that it would be esier to just stay with him.
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My stbx never got a DUI (but should have HUNDREDS of times!). I got sober (through AA) a year ago this month. My stbx continued with his substance abuse. He would make promises and then turn around and do what he wanted to do. I told him that if it continued, it would be the last straw and I would file for divorce. 4 months later I filed and he was put out of the home 2 months after that. During these past 6 months, he's pleaded with me to take him back, yet he won't change his behaviors. Remember, actions speak louder than words!
I've been a stay-at-home mom for 7 years and had no money of my own--but I filed anyway without knowing how I was going to support myself and the children. Our safety and emotional health far outweigh creature comforts. I am much happier now that I don't have to live in that environment. Best of luck--my prayers are with you :)
I am in the same boat. My husband drinks about a liter of bourbon a night along with his painkillers. He stopped in January for two months and I was happier than ever, but then he started again and is right back up to drinking every single night. First thing he does when he gets home from work is get a tall drink. Then he goes up to the bedroom and changes his clothes and sits up there and drinks for the rest of the night. He doesn't even keep the bourbon in the kitchen anymore, it's right by the bed. We don't sleep in the bed together anymore and haven't for some time. I have a 13 year old daughter (prior marriage) who can't stand him when he drinks. My 21 year old daughter lives in the apartment downstairs and she can't stand him either. I am trying to find the courage to leave him. I told him last week I was leaving and he said he would leave. He left and came back very intoxiated and starting taking all his stuff out to his friend's car. The next morning he said he wanted to stay. Then he decided he would still pay the house payment if I signed the house over to him because if I left, he wouldn't pay since the house is in my name. At this point I want him to leave and I'll sell the house; I'm just scared to tell him because he was so explosive last weekend. I know what you mean being easier to stay, but the question is, is that what is best for you and your kids? It's not an easy decision, I know because I can't seem to get up the guts to do it either!