I am new to this, have never joined a chat group, but am lost for where to turn. A quick introduction, my name is Ginny, I have 3 wonderful grown children and my husband of 26 years told me on Jan 21 that he had rented and apartment and was moving out. No fights, no troubles, he just decided that I am not what he is looking for. So we sat down figured out the logistics (financial) and he is gone from my life. My problem? How do I move on, i know intellectually that it is probably best for the both of us, we have become more like room mates, therehas been no intimacy (emotional or physical) for the past three years. he travels extensively for his job and has become distant (not just in miles but in presence when home). I have a job that I love, so that gives me some solace, as long as I am busy i don't have to think about it. It is during the quiet times, driving home, last in the evenings that I feel a hole in my heart. There is a heavy weight and that overwhelming feeling that I just don't measure up, a feeling of failure that I did not do enough to preserve the marriage. I truly loved this man and watched him drift away year after year. I have been told that it gets better and after 6 months will start to feel human again, then after a year will start to enjoy life. I feel a real sense of betrayal, this man I loved and trusted above all others has gone. He secretly arranged for an apartment, got it all furnished, and yet after he left, when I turned on the desktop computer, he had "forgotten" to erase a conversation witha woman, wher he was arranging to meet her (paying for plane ticket) on one of his business trips. He also as a parting comment when getting the last of his clothes asked for "2 of the nice wine glasses". I think that's what hurt most of all. I don't really know what I aam looking for on this site, I can't sleep, no appetite and feel like I "zip into" my robo-Ginny" suit each morning, slap a smile on my face and go to work, but when work is done, I feel vacant. Has anyone else been through this? and what did you do to get by. Most of my friends who have been through divorce had nasty breakups, fighting, child custody issues etc. I don't have that, many of them are saying "how could he, and what a jerk" but I don't feel that way, basically it's very amicable and very removed, and its just over. Thanks for listening
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