
Breakups & Divorce Support Group
Just broke up with someone or in the midst of a difficult divorce? Breaking up is difficult no matter what the circumstances are. They say that time heals all wounds, but sometimes a listening ear or a hug can work wonders for the heart. Whether you need a place to vent, someone to hold you to No Contact, or need advice about what to do, we're here to help.
You have a right to be angry! Don't let anger fully consume your body. People tell me it gets easier. I think it will. Praying for you.
how's that?
I don't believe that we are coming out Cold, Angry or Bitter. That is a protection phase. It will turn loose.
Think of how Hard it is to change a personality trait. You Can't. You can bend and pretend, but you end up Back where you started.
Don't worry. Just keep putting one foot in front of the other.
I felt safe and comfy at home alone and hated beng around people...
I was so bitter angry and hated the world...I hated myself...
I saw what i was doing, I saw the miserable, angry bitter person I was turning into but i couldnt help it...
Its been 7 months and I am only now starting to feel a lil better...
the best thing i can recommend is to try and think of some things u are grateful for in ur life...At first they may have to be lil tiny, pety things like
i am grateful for the food i ate today or a cherished memory from ur childhood or even the lil bit of sleep u got the night b4..I know how angry u are and how cold u are becoming and i know u r having a hard time feelin gratful for anything right now...u just have to keep thinkin of all the small things that we all take for granted everyday...
if u cant bring urself to feel grateful for anything right now - then try some smaller steps...example
when u find urself dwelling over something neg that happened that day try to stop urself and remind urse;f that it could be worse...
I used to blow a fuse if someone tried to cut me off in traffic ..i would get so angry and felt like they were doing it to piss me off...when i caught myself feelin and thinkin that way I tried to think of what COULD have happened..."so he cut me off and now im stuck at the light and will be late...but thank god i was able to stop in time and avoid an accident"
trying to put a positive spin on things also helps put things in perspective...
its hard but it will get easier to find things to b grateful for ....
Also as much as u dont want to let people in or u want to be alone - u need to force urself to have some support and contact with others u trust...
keep busy and try to do things that may help make u a better person...if u can try and find some place to volunteer for...