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How do I handle the holidays? Should I divorce?

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I thought finding out about my husband's affair would be the hardest thing I ever had to endure. Unfortunately, it was just the tip of the iceberg. LIVING with knowing about it has proven to be the most challenging part. It seems the harder I try not to think about it, the more it comes to mind. I can't stand my own thoughts!!
I'm dreading Thanksgiving and I can't even think ahead to Christmas. I have always cherished our holiday family time, now I am wanting to avoid it. It just doesn't feel special anymore. Instead of spending the holiday at home with him, I've thought about going to the beach with my brother and sister-in-law. Maybe that way it wouldn't feel like a holiday and it wouldn't hurt so much???
I really need feedback. How do I handle the holidays? Beyond the holidays, why do I stay with him when I can't trust him? Why can't I be strong enough to walk away from him and restore my life? I know I don't deserve the way he has treated me...so why do I put up with it???
I'm dreading Thanksgiving and I can't even think ahead to Christmas. I have always cherished our holiday family time, now I am wanting to avoid it. It just doesn't feel special anymore. Instead of spending the holiday at home with him, I've thought about going to the beach with my brother and sister-in-law. Maybe that way it wouldn't feel like a holiday and it wouldn't hurt so much???
I really need feedback. How do I handle the holidays? Beyond the holidays, why do I stay with him when I can't trust him? Why can't I be strong enough to walk away from him and restore my life? I know I don't deserve the way he has treated me...so why do I put up with it???
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You will find your strength, but it will take time. You put up with it because you are a good person who has a heart. We always hope for the happy ending and for the pain and nonsense to go away.
Hang in there. Take it day by day.
I'm planning on taking my son to do stuff my ex would never want to do. and we have already pulled out the xmas stuff.
My advice is to GO to the beach and have some family with my your family. during these times, family support is soooo important.
and it's ok to still be where you are, you will make your decisions on leaving or staying when you are ready. the holidays are hard, wait until they are over.