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How do I go on?

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I don't know what to do! How do I tell my kids that their dad is leaving? They will be so heartbroken. Does anyone have any advice on this? I don't know how I would tell them without shedding a tear or breaking down. I have been with this man for 15 years and he has been my rock. I have also never been very social. How do I go on with my life? I'm scared! The holidays will be so scary for me. How do I keep it together for my kids? Please help!
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This is hard. When mine left, his parting comments were "we're all adults, deal with it". After he left, we all sat and cried together. Then we talked. I let them ask questions, and I was as honest as I could be without saying anything negative about their dad. Hang in there!
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Its not easy, but they need to know that their dad is not leaving because of them. Hopefully he will still be a part of their lives and let them know how much they men to him.

There really is nothing anyone can say or do that will make this easier. Only time, counseling and the strength inside will get you through this. hang in there
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"I don't know how I would tell them without shedding a tear or breaking down"...

Why can't you cry and breakdown? When I told my d (x was in Europe) we cried togther and held each other.

She knew that this was not what I wanted, that I was hurting too, so in a way, I think it made it easier than being a stone with no emotions.

All the best to you, my heart goes out to you and your kids.
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My suggestion is to let him tell the children with all of you sitting there together. He is the one who is making this choice afterall. You will then be there to help them deal with qustions afterwards with open hearts and arms. It's time for you to the rock to your children. Just always remember not to belittle their father, that will only make you look bad in their eyes!
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My advice for telling kids from my therapist was, keep it short, keep it simple. Mom and Dad aren't going to live together anymore. We love you children just like always. We are still a family, we just will have a new look. Then if you want, you can ask if they have any questions. Hope this helps, and don''t worry about your tears, this is emotional stuff, kids know we are not robots, and we feel things as well as they do. Lily
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lots of good advice already posted. Sorry you and the children are going through this.(((hugs))) for you all. Day by day
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