the pain will last as long as it does, theres not set time. I'm sorry to say. I wish I knew that answer as well. there are days that I just want to do nothing or talk to anyone. But you have to look past that pick yourself up and move on with your life. Try to stay positve and busy. Try to do something that you like. That will help. Also I have found that being around my faimly (mom and dad sitters) has helped out alot too. Keep your head up girl you'll make it. We all will. just takes time.

I am also living alone for the first time ever, at first I loved it,, then gets kinda old,, huh? Do you ever catch yourself talking out loud and no one answers?

I wish I knew the answer. I'm just going to do what I can, minute by minute, hour by hour, etc. Hang in there, we'll get there.

24 years is an awful long time to be verbally abused. I don't get upset about people w/ abusive patterns as long as they can recognize and fix what is going on with them. However, he's had two girlfriends in a very short amount of time. It is sometimes really painful to realize that very person you loved became someone you never knew, in otherwards a stranger. You are better than this, and even if it takes a year or so, you'll be so much better for it *hugs sweetie*.

I bet you're stronger than he is. You're allowing yourself to feel your pain. You're alone and you're hurting but you're working through it. You're reaching out for support in a positive way but you're doing it on your own.

He will continue to bring the same bad habbits to every relationship that he will have you need to focus on you and your kids now. Try to enjoy your daughters day and make it special for her and you.

Oh my dear ds friend what a tough spot to be in I cant even imagine that kind of pain. wedding, divorce all in a week there is no doubt you will be on an emotional rollercoaster. Find a dear friend whose house you can go to for some cry time. wipe your tears and get up and do it again. As far as the hurt from being left, this takes a long time sorry but it does get easier

Again, guys thanks for all the kind words. I appreciate the support--ya'll have been there and it gives me hope!

I was like that. I was afraid of being alone. Afriad of hte unknown. I would have gladly gone back to "try again" just so I wouldn't be alone. Not unlike the children of Isreal wanting to go back to Egypt. Afriad of the unknown.There is a promised land. A place without pain. Keep looking forward, not back and you'll get there sooner.

I thought my situation was bad (married for 12 years, 2 boys 7 and 9). Just found out two weeks ago that my wife was cheating on me. I feel for you and we are in the same boat. I am taking it one day at a time. It definetly is a rollercoster ride. Good days and bad days. Pick up the phone and call somebody.

I wish I knew then I would have something to look forward too. All you can do is focus on your kids and yourself. You need to let go and move on. what your ex does is none of your business any more. Sorry to be so blunt. What you do is none of his either. You will be happy again and this will just be a bad memory. The best thing you can do is move on and ignore what your ex is doing in his personal life. You have no control over that. focus on the positive and try not to hate. I did and it does no good. You do not have to be best buddies just get along for the kids sake. I try not too talk to my ex unless it is about my daughter. Otherwise no contact.