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How do I get over this?

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I got married last Halloween, but been with my husband for 5 years and just left him in September to move back to Ohio where my family livs. Needless to say he stayed in Texas. He has said (what seems to me overnight) that his feelings have changed about me and he has someone that he is "talking" to, but has been telling me for months that all he and I needed was time tpo save money and go to school etc. Now since this other girl he "doesn;t see us being together anymore" and since then I haven't been able to let the feelings I have for him go let alone stop crying. How do I deal?
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It is hard, I know, my husband is from Texas, they have their own way of thinking, at leat the ones that I know. From what I have learned, the abusive ones drop you like a hot potato when they find someone new. Not sure what to tell you gal as far as how to get over it. I know it's hard, just keep your chin up and research relationships. If you were in an abusive relationship contact your nearest domestic violence program. If you are not sure if it was abusive, check it out. There is a syndrome called Stolkholmes syndrome that could be connected to you. As I said, keep your chin up, it will get better. And don't be afraid to cry, get it all out.
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You're going to hear this a lot- time. Time will help you get through this. The only thing that I've found that has really helped me is detaching. It's been a lot easier not seeing/talking to him. I'm sorry you're going through this.
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Hi joicee04,

You are going to hang in there and take things one day at a time and sometimes 1 minute at a time.

Believe everyone when they tell you that time does heal all wounds.

You will recover and for now it's okay to cry and feel sad.

I'm so sorry of what you're going through.
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I am going through a very similar situation and I am so sorry for you. I feel so sad and lonely and worthless everyday about the situation and cry all the time. I know 2 other people that went through this and they all say it just takes time to heal this wound but if you're like me it feels like there will never be enough time. Just know that someone out there is going through the same thing and we will be okay, i hope you find strength in me like I will in you.
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It does take time. I know that's not really helpful to you right now, I felt the same way. It also helped me to talk to my doctor, she was able to prescribe meds for depression. That helped me tremendously. Don't talk to him at all right now...that will only hinder the healing process. I'm sorry you are going through this...I'm in the same position. It hurts beyond belief, I know. But you WILL heal, I promise.
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