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How do I get him off my mind?

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I've been dating someone the last couple of months, I've been seperated for 2 years and am now finally in the process of divorce. It has been so long since I've had a man give me affection and I'm having difficulty with this new relationship in that I'm feeling way insecure? I want to see him all the time, I'm starting to feel like a needy chick and don't like it. How do I quit giving all of my thoughts and energy over to this new relationship? I have so much else going for me but I can't stop thinking about him. What to do? I really wish I could just slow down and be mellow but find I'm anxious all the time and can't wait to see him. Has anybody else gone thru this? Is this normal? What does it all mean?
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Usually people obsess on something or someone because they are in pain. Figure out what you're in pain about, feel the pain, and deal with it would be my observation.
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I don't know for sure your focusing on him because of pain-it may well be-but I would imagine your "obsessing" because this is something very, very new for you. It is a return of an old, wonderful feeling that has been absent for a long time-and now you have a taste of it back, you can't think of anything else. I don't think its such a problem, enjoy it, as long as it doesnt begin to interfere with the other aspects of your life-then you may have a problem.
ChiTownBear
ChiTownBear
remain calm cool and collective around him while you let yourself enjoy the good feeling of having someone.

It will help as you continue to work on the pain that you are still experiencing underneath.
deleted_user
deleted_user
Wish I knew what the pain was, single parenting? over stressed? No one to ly with at night? Financial stress? Nobody to tell me I'm the one? doing everything for everyone else but not for myself? Is that the pain?
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