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How do I cope?

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I found my husband in bed with another woman this morning. I think I would be foolish to believe this was his first time. I have had my suspicions before, but could never prove them or catch him. Our 16 year old son was witness to this also. I don't have a clue what to do. I don't think I can reconcile because I could never look at him the same way again. I think there would always be paranoia(SP?). Besides, he probably doesn't want to come home anyway because he packed a suitcase and left to go to "her" home. What advice can anyone give me? What do I need to do first? I am afraid he will come here when I'm away and start taking things from the home. I know they are half his, but I don't think this is the right time to start divvying things up. Am I wrong? Please, all advice is welcome.
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Miss Ann,
The first thing I would do is call a lawyer, and change the locks. If you really think reconsiliation is out of the question then file for D. I feel bad for your son. That's a terrible thing for him to witness. I hope he's OK. If you need to talk there are great people here to talk to!
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First thing you need to do is get the locks changed. Then, go either to the clerk of the court to get the papers to file, or get a lawyer.
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Just remember that you are a strong person who deserves better for you and your son.

Make sure you don't let this guy convince you of anything less!
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I would first ask an atty. about changing the locks. I asked my atty. and she said best that I don't since it is his home too. Could cause problems later.

I really do know the shock and despair you are feeling. I thought the biggest problem in my marriage was my husband's alcohol abuse and workaholism.

Feb. 5, I came home from work and there was a message on my phone from a prostitute. Uh...I mean "escort".

Long story short. STBX has been seeing pretty young escorts since October. OUCH!!

We've been married 14 1/2 yrs. and together for 19. No kids together, but he is losing my daughter and a grand daughter and grandson! That is the best revenge I can think of right now. He is losing sooooo much.

You WILL be okay and it helps to know others are with you in the same boat with the active current tossing us around. Emotions change daily!

I'm concerned about your son. How awful for him to see his dad like that. What a great role model your husband is (sarcasm).

I really feel for you! BTW....THIS is my first post here.
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You should ask an attorney but I also have heard that changing the locks on a house that he also owns can cause enormous legal problems down the road. Judges don't like that kind of stuff. If you are concerned about him taking stuff, get a video camera or regular camera and photograph everything and make an inventory. That way, later, you will have some proof. Good luck.
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My husband brought a prostitute home and ended up getting arrested after chasing her out of the house with a threating object. My 16yo son told me of this as his friend called him after seeing it in the paper. Hold your head up high you've done nothing wrong. Your children know even when we try to protect them they realize what is right and wrong. I had to change the locks 3 times he kept on getting in. Be careful things were taken
from my house that had emotional value to me. I know how you feel its okay and you and your child will be okay if you think positive.
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