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How did your standards change after you got divorced or started down the point of no return.
My wife just told me she didn't want to be with me anymore and I would like to think that in the future I will hold women to a higher standard and be truer to myself. I would like to think that I will hold myself to a higher standard. I was just wondering if anyone had any words for me. Or just for yourselves to reassure yourselves that you learned. Cuz at this point it doesn't look like I will be going anywhere for a while.
My wife just told me she didn't want to be with me anymore and I would like to think that in the future I will hold women to a higher standard and be truer to myself. I would like to think that I will hold myself to a higher standard. I was just wondering if anyone had any words for me. Or just for yourselves to reassure yourselves that you learned. Cuz at this point it doesn't look like I will be going anywhere for a while.
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Seriously, I think the one thing that I would change would be to talk all serious things out early on if it seemed to be getting serious. If we had similar ideas on things like career, place to live, kids, etc, then I think that those are the standards that I would look for.
Other than the basic honesty and communication of course.
And UUGGGLY.
If you want to be happy for the rest of your life, you have to make an ugly wonman your wife...
Yeah, I don't know if I would say my standards have changed much. I do feel that there is more to a person than just looks, so have been taking that into consideration.
Hmmmmm....I think a thorough back ground check, full medical exam, lie detector test, credit report, and a private investigator might be in order before I consider dating someone again--LOL!
I am looking inside myself to see what could have driven her away. The list wa long but then I shortened it down to three things.
One: Love myself and feel good about how I look, and how I treat all people. Two: Express love by simple acts every day.
Three: I have written what I learned from my time with her and I apply those lessons. Example: if she wants to buy a house that we can't afford, she can. But with her money.
You will come out of this a leaner, stronger, more wise man
If it ain't working let her know. Don't hesitate to bring up issues b/c they will only fester and make the relationship intolerable.
*he better tell I'm beautiful!
*he WILL have NO past w/ drugs, alcohol, porn
addiction or video games!
*he will be a family guy who loves his own family AND children
*he will have direction,purpose and goals
*he will be sweet,sincere and most of all honest and have the highest integrity
*he will be faithful and take his vows seriously...ummmm forsaking all others!
*he will be a fabulous father and role model
*someone who can communicate without a temper tantrum
andmy list goes on....does he exist?
From where I was, there only one way to go and thats UP! My standads are set to high and I will accept NOTHING less for me or my son!!!!
Also she Will NOT be into porn or cyber sexing. Those are my standards!
-raising a family
-religion
-financial
-futures plans/retirement
-communication skills
we should be able to agree on these issues before we move forward.
Just my thoughts though!
If there is ever anyone else, they must have a soul.
I have grown up, but what I wanted has never changed.
That being said, the women I know that whenever she's lucky enough to rope in a great catch like me, will:
be educated
self reliant
great family values
not a slut
strong beliefs
selfless and giving
doesn't stand in the mirror 45 of 60 minutes
didn't just get out of a relationship and if was in one for a long time, is over him.
doesn't mind I have more hair on my body than on top of my head. lol