I believe I had the least painful separation on the planet. We had already sold our house, were living back in my hometown near lots of supportive family members and the kids rarely saw their dad at all. It was very trauma free, especially not having to sell property or be uprooted. Plus my ex had told me we were going to get divorced for so many years before it happened, that it was a well-accepted fact when it actually did happen. Anyhow, I know that most people suffer great loss at this time, especially when it wasn't really expected. I couldn't imagine coming home and unexpectedly finding a note from my spouse saying he had left like some people do. Then having to dispose of mutually owned property on top of it! So, people who have experienced such a difficult separation - how did you cope? What did you do to keep your sanity when your world was unexpectedly crumbling around you? I have a very good friend in this situation and want to find creative, positive ways to help him cope.