Breakups & Divorce Support Group
Just broke up with someone or in the midst of a difficult divorce? Breaking up is difficult no matter what the circumstances are. They say that time heals all wounds, but sometimes a listening ear or a hug can work wonders for the heart. Whether you need a place to vent, someone to hold you to No Contact, or need advice about what to do, we're here to help.
After almost a month with no contact whatsoever, my stbx called and asked if we could get together. I asked him what was going on and got a very vague, "I just want to talk about everything that's happened." I'm sure what he wants to discuss are the terms of our separation/divorce. (He wants to try and work it ourselves rather than a big, long, ugly court process because he doesn't want us to end up "bitter enemies" -- ha, ha, too late!) While I know in my head this is what he wants to discuss, there is this little part of me hoping that now he's lived with the OW for about 2 months, he's realized what a horrible mistake he's made and is going to beg me to take him back. I know that is a childish fantasy, and I'm just setting myself up for more hurt, so I'm trying really hard to push that out of my mind. I don't think I would even take him back at this point, but I still want him to beg for forgiveness and ask to come home. So stupid! Please give me a reality check!
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theatre and I are there already. I'm having a very berry tea with crackers, cheese and cherry tomatoes and she's having a joint with some beer and we're both on really comfy recliners on thick pile carpet. we need some help with the decor if anyone is around??
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I'm trying to exercise daily. I was doing fairly well until I sprained my ankle 2 weeks ago but now I'm getting back on the horse. Today I walked over a mile with my arm weights that are about 22lbs total. I was out of shape and it was hard on my arms. I also did my 30 situps. I'm also going to drink a lot of water and try to eat healthy. I do tend to have a sweet tooth but I'm cutting...
You are inviting yourself to be hurt, and why would you do that? You deserve better than that. You may want to consider suggesting "dealing with things" via email, you can keep your feet firmly planted on the ground that way.
Remember the words he says are not as powerful as his actions.
Like you, I seriously now doubt if I could take him back. It would take a lot of therapy for each of us as well as my grown daughters, who suffered from this more than he can know.
In reality, I know it is very unlikely but that little spark of hope is there.
Take care of yourself and take care of your heart. HE isn't going to even though he might say he didn't want to hurt you.
In your case, it is POSSIBLE that that is what he wants to talk about, but not likely. Keep that in mind. Hope for the best and prepare for the worst. Good luck
just didn't think there were so many "hopers" out there.
i keep hoping my husband (ex) will realise that our marriage was worth to fight for.
he doesn't think so. he even tells me that he knows he will never find another woman like me (bla, bla, bla...) but our marriage is not worth the "sacrifice" of not having his nights out every and single day.he's just a selfish sobtx. so, whenever he comes with his puppy eyes and i dare to hope,... that's when i get hurt the more.
i blame him for making me believe, but i'm the one who dares to hope and beieieve that things would be differente.
my fault.