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How Are People Healing And Moving Forward?

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I haven't posted in a while and Larry dug up one of my old posts... got me to thinking about how well I am now compared to a year ago when I started on DS (and for me it has been 17 months) since I found out about my stbx and his GF... but anyway... the question I have for people is..

HOW ARE YOU HEALING? WHAT ARE YOU DOING TO MOVE FORWARD WITH YOUR LIFE?

Me... I'm focusing on me and my family. I'm doing 'new things'. Focus on new and different. For example I've taken up Yoga and joined a second health club, I've been biking this summer (actually biked 65 miles)... I'm back to playing my guitar.

While I have strived to do new things... I've also worked hard recently at stepping back into those things I used to do with my family (such as hiking), etc. Now I can go back to those place and do things with my kids without my stbx and not be upset. Last year I couldn't do that.

I am truly healing and focusing every day on healing more. The way I do that... I focus on constantly growing myself and healing myself.

I exercise daily and journal regularly.

I have expanded my friendships and continue to meet new people and develop new relationships.

While I am dating someone, I'm in this with no expectations at present..

SO TELL ME HOW ARE YOU ALL HEALING... WHAT ARE YOU DOING FOR YOU? HOW ARE YOU MOVING YOURSELF FORWARD>?
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I loved hearing this,, it sounds great!!!!
Congratulations on your rebirth into life!!!
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For me it has only been 90 days and my divorce will be final in three days....I am trying to heal still.

I have gotten reaquainted with my family, tried to stay busy, started eating healthier and exercising.

I look forward to getting to the point where you are.

OH...welcome back
LarryLDN
LarryLDN
oh, I didn't dig it up, after I replied I realized the OP was from LAST November.

Good to hear you're doing well :)

We split 2/06, what a rollercoaster. 2 months later I had my last cigarette One year, six months, four weeks, two days, 6 hours, 14 minutes and 47 seconds. 17347 cigarettes not smoked, saving $4,770.64. Life saved: 8 weeks, 4 days, 5 hours, 35 minutes.

took a good 6 months before I started to accept my position.

this year has been so much better, maybe even the most awesome spring/summer of my life

next year I hope to get my decree by April and start a new life
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I like your posts too.

Not trying to communicate with him IS moving forward for me! And, just being real around people instead of covering it up.

You set a great example.
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Nice to hear. I stayed to myself in the beginning. I have picked by guitar and camera back up. I am also enjoying the gym as well and getting back into shape. I am trying to do good things for myself and others. My marriage was over long before the final split. the healing has been just as people have said alot of crying grieving, laughing, screaming loniless and light at the end of the tunnel.
thanks for sharing
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Oh, I forgot: eating fruit and vegetable every day! Big stuff for me!
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LOTS and LOTS of love and support from friends and family have helped heal the hurt. I remember very clearly a day, in the beginning of the divorce mess, a friend put her hand on mine and said.... "OMG! This is your second chance at happiness sweetie! We should celebrate, not cry!" I loved her for that. You have to focus on better days and those people who you love. Turn the negative into a postive and look at it as a new beginning, not the beginning of the end. Like you, I am focusing on the future and try to put the past where it belongs... in the past. Glad to hear you are moving forward, that is wonderful. God Bless.
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I think reading this has just made me realize I have come to a stand still because I'm not doing anything to help myself move forward. I keep waiting for things to happen...not sure what those "things" are, but I'm working on it.

I suppose buying my first self-help book this weekend is a start at moving forward.
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