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Hope is Crazy! lol

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Well, I read the post on about Women's Infidelity and I bought the book and realized that in most cases, the woman does end up leaving....not sure, but I read quite a bit and it all seemed too much to take in. I am going to send it to my wife and see what she thinks, but I do not think anything will happen for our marriage. I am going to let my hope for our marriage subside and just TRULY work on myself. I am not going to get into any relationship and I will try to be the best friends that I can with my wife, but I will not allow myself to cling to false hope. I will allow her to see what it is that she really does want, and who knows.....if she really loves me, then she will come back.
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one step at a time Breeze, you are not alone
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I had hope the first time he left that he would see the light, he did, for about 4 days then he left again. I don't have much hope now. It would take a big change on his part for me to go through that again. At least that is what I am saying to myself today.
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Even when the reality hurts it is nice to step forward. Just don't look back and question what you could have change ask what will you change in yourself
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Sorry!
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Hang in there and keep the positive attitude!
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Sounds like you have your head as together as anyone can under these circumstances. Stay strong.
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Hey BReese... I was stationed at Bliss as well..

You're in a tough place, but you've got a great attitude. I would suggest working on the relationship with your children and keeping the friendship with your wife "friendly" as this moves toward the inevitable.

Sounds like you did everything you could to make it work. Keep your head up and take care.
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Your attitude sounds good. You have read the book and know more than me but it sounds like most of them cannot change their behavior and so they'll do it again to the first guyif they go back to them, or they'll do it to the next guy. And ladies, this I believe is true for wandering men, too. It's just that the author is a women and talks from personal experience, and interviewed hundreds of women. Well worth a read.
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Letting go of false hope for the relationships is one of the best things you can do for yourself.
I am at 4 months and H is certain he wants the D yet I am in denial and clinging to false hope. Let go and continue to work on yourself.
You're doing GREAT. Keep up the good work.
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Congrats on taking a big step. Remember to stay strong and take care of yourself.
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Smart guy!
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