no one can tell you anything about your situation. you are the only one in it, the only one who has a right to judge it. does it hurt???? if it does than it's real pain. same as if it were years. embarrassed is an in the way kinda feeling that will hold you in place. move on from that. we're here.

Don't be embarrassed. Mine should have ended the first 48 hours. For that I am embarrassed.

I was only married 1 year before he started looking for his own place....yes I do feel like there was no effort to try and make it even work,and I feel very ashamed and embarassed too(but not because of me, but because i got involved with someone like that)...like I said in a different thread, people give up too easily and marriages are too disposable in this society. It is a shame that relationships have become as easy to change as jobs...

I agree with salbertar. To many people give up without a fight. People give love and take it back to easily. The amount of time isn't what matters but the heart u put into it.

I am so sorry you are having to go through this so soon. It hurts no matter how long you've been married. Obviously, he wasn't ready for marriage, and I wish that he wouldn't have wasted your time.

Funny you mentioned embarrassment. I felt and still feel the same way. I've ben married for 12 years almost. It feels like people will look at me as this person that my husband got rid of because I wasn't worth a crap. That feeling will change over time. Just like with you. ;)

I was married less than a year before we seperated. After our anniversary she filed. That's embarrasing. I wanted to try but, she didn't even care enough to try. Just a month ago she tells me that she wants to try. I think it might be too late for us. Don't be blaming yourself. I blame myself and it just makes things worse. I don't even like to tell people I am married. Yes, it's dissapointing and I understand where you are coming from.

I also wanted to add that this is NOT YOUR FAULT! It's his fault and you shouldn't be embarrassed at all.

I got to thinking about this and it ticks me off because we shouldn't be embarrassed whatsoever. They are the ones who couldn't hack it. They are the ones who should be embarrassed!

Getting divorced or separated is not an embarrassment. These things happen, but what you do to recover from it is what matters most.

I posted my actual pic on this site b/c I wanted to say to everybody....my name is Jay and I'm separated and most likely getting divorced. It was liberating and allowed me to climb out of the hole I was in when it first happened.

Do not feel embarrassed about this and most of all don't worry about what others think. Worry about you and take care of you.

I was embarassed when my husband left me as well. Now I know better now but at the time I felt like I a was a failure. Eventually you get over what other people think and just concentrate on moving on from the pain, which is tough but possible.

sometimes it's a blessing in disguise. people in your life are there for a purpose, and when that season is over, they move on; and so can you.

you got what you needed in less than a year and can find what's in store for you in the future.

I had to go through 24 yrs before being released. everyone has their own 'sentence'. I finally been paroled ;)

I felt the same way. Right after the honeymoon things were not right. 3 mths later he filed but we tried to work it out. It will be 3 yrs in January and now calling it quits. I was too very embarassed and ashamed since I still had all the wedding gifts and thank you cards to deal with.

I felt embarrassed as well. I don't do well with failure, never have and I felt that I was a failure at my marriage eventhough intellectually I knew that it was not my fault. I am mostly embarrassed by the fact that I tolerated his bullshit for so long and also that I was ever involved with a man that would rather hang out with his friends and play soccer then spend time with his wife and son.

You can't be embarrased. Things happen and people change, it doesn't matter if you were together 1 year or 10.

Married for less than three years here. I am perfectly willing to do the work but he is not. Has another love interest now...

why are you embarrassed? you didn't leave, he did. hold your head up. you did nothing wrong. and there is no time limit.