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we have come up with a timeframe for him to be with the boys as well as myself.

thanksgiving will be 10-4 with him and 4-the next day with me and i"ll come home on Friday somethime. that is because it was 4-10 and i cant drive home that late with the boys. i get tired and start to nod off . so im staying at my moms 1/2 hour away. if it was 10 minutes away id drive home.

then he gets them xmas eve and we open gifts together christmas day I take them after 11 fro the day.

this is all so disturbing. ive , of course, never been away from them at the holidays.

the weird thing is, he wants to open pesents together on christmas day. this means i'll have to get him a little something and this means he has NO intention of moving out any time soon. uuuuhhhhjjjgggggg

the boys finally know. so i thought he'd move out soon. but NO
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hang in there. mine was really nasty but wouldn't leave either. it was h*ll. he finally left and things get better. i am sure this holiday situation won't be ideal, but think about what you would like and try to get there. next year will be better!
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I am DREADING the holidays this year- and I have always loved them. We haven't discussed Thanksgiving yet. My cousin invited me and the kids to her hous a couple hours away and that sounds best to me. I just can't fix the dinner I always do and look at his empty chair or thnk about including him. But he may try to get the kids to go with him to his brothers. I know my oldest and grandbaby will do what I want, but not sure about the younger two and don't want to have us all split up. This is what HE wanted but I know he'll want to be with the kids. Maybe if we ever can be civil I will suggest having the kids Thurs. and he can Fri- oh but my daughter works Fri. First we have to see who the judge orders out of the house this week!
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In a world where everyone is divorced the holidays are hell sometimes. I know.

Imagine the logistics.

The kids have to see both parents right? The parents want to see their family also, right?

Now add time to this mix. The kids are grown. They want to spend time with their kids, their spouses parents, and their own parents times 2 now.

So, I try to occomidate my kids with their time with their Mom, their kids, their inlaws, my family, my new spouses family.....

....AAAAAAAAAHHHHHHH!!!!!!
Che2
Che2
My ex was so happy that I wasn't going after him financially..he agreed to "adequate time with the children on or around the Holidays"

I will have them on Thanksgiving. He is going to have them Christmas Eve and bring them home around 9pm.

My ex's only family is his Mother who lives in another state. All of the kids extended family is on my side and spends the Holidays with us.

Holidays have stayed the same around here... minus the ex.
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We decided it best to alternate week before christmas them week after. I won't see them till 12/26.

Figure they will be exhausted on 25th after all the baby daddy family activities. There's only so many presents a kid can enjoy on one day.

MY KIDS ARE GONNA MAKE OUT LIKE BANDITS! (his family - her family - him - her)

I opted to take the $$$ and build memories instead of buying video games. We are taking family ski trip instead!
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As weird as it sounds, we have decided to do the holidays together. Since we don't hate each other and neither is involved with someone else, it seems like the right thing to do for our son.

I am a child of divorce and my parents get along fine and never lay a guilt trip on us but it is still awkward at times. The more you can do to make it easier on your kids, the better is my opinion.

We will get together for Thanksgiving at his house including his parents and then we will get together Christmas morning to open presents, probably at my house. I was wondering the same thing as you, Annmd..should I get him a little gift from me? It would feel weird not to but, on the other hand, we are doing this to help smooth the transition for our son. Holidays are one of the worst things about being single. Yuck!
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