Maybe volunteer somewhere to serve the homeless - it will help them AND you at the same time. Best of luck and Happy Thanksgiving. Wishing you peace during this terrible time.

Hibernation until spring sounds like a damn good idea right now.

You don't have any family or friends to spend the day with? If you have some single guy friends, get them together for some pizza and beer, maybe some movies, football.

If not spend the day doing what you enjoy. Go out to the movies, go hiking, whatever you enjoy.

If you can find someone to be with, do. Otherwise, use the time to your advantage. Sorry for the heartache of the holidays.

I like the idea of hibernation too. Lost everything, including friends in the divorce. With family & real friends all out of state & physical limitations (partly why he left), right now it's hard to get out & do something to get past the being alone part.

I will be on DS tomorrow. I hope I will have some company. But then again, I hope no one has the need to be here as I wouldn't wish being alone on the holidays on anyone.

I KNOW WHAT YOU MEAN. Here's a thought. I don't know if it will help or not. I believe everything happens for a REASON. Even if we don't know why we have to suffer through it. Try to think about what you've LEARNED from all of this. Not who's RIGHT or who was WRONG but what you as an individual has learned from the relationship, and what you learned from the divorce. Make some generic plans for a year from now. Where to do you want to be? What do you want to be doing? Focus on YOU and how you can find things that make you HAPPY, even if it's just renting your favorite movie and making a bowl of popcorn. Maybe you like walking in the park. Find one thing to focus on and be thankful for that one thing. Sometimes it's hard to find. I've been there. I know. For me, it was an abusive relationship I am now thankful I am out of. It can be lonely, but I keep focusing on the fact I would rather BE ALONE THAN BE WITH AN ABUSER! Period. I don't know your situation, but try to be thankful, if nothing else, for the EXPERIENCE and focus on the bright side of having had that. If you don't want fast food for Thanksgiving, BUY A TURKEY and cook for yourself. Invite over a buddy you haven't seen, or someone from church, if you go, or just go all out for YOU. Don't focus on how lonely you are, but focus on the fact that you are free to do what YOU want. Leave the rest up to God. God knows what you need and if you ask for it you will be surprised on the answer. Think of your life as a tapestry. God is the master weaver. You can only see the tangled back, all the threads, colors making no sense. But, there is a plan. Realize that and be thankful, if only for a moment you are ALIVE to experience that master plan. We can only appreciate how good the good is when we get it if we can get through the worst times. LEARN from the experience. Stop and THINK and make yourself acutely aware of what IS inside of you, what you've learned and where you want to be next year at this time. My prayers are with you and God's arm is around you. I pray you will find peace and find something in which you can find comfort and thanks.

The breakups of marriages and separation of fathers from their children creating emotional and psychological scarring is NOT part of god's plan.

I don't have no advice, but I just wanted to tell ya that you are not alone. I am going through the same thing. It's really painful, but I tell myself that next year will be better. I am spending Thanksgiving alone for the first time in 30 years.

I am also loosing a bit of my "peace and happiness" over the thought of tomorrow. I am so sorry for ALL of Us!!!

good question paul....i thought i was past it all...but this is the first holiday i have spent without the brady bunch....it's a bit of a downer, but me thinks i will step out in a few minutes and shoot a game of pool.