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chowgirl
chowgirl
We're still trying to sell our old house, although my stbx is living in it now. My real estate agent just called. A couple went to see it today, and they might make an offer, but it will probably include having the inside painted, as it wreaks of cigarette smoked. WTF?!!!!! I just spent $3000 having the inside painted. I told him he absolutely couldn't smoke in the house. I have to call him to tell him he can't smoke in the house and has to wash the walls (oh yeah, that's gonna happen). I'm gonna wring his f'ing neck. I don't even know how I'm going to talk to him civilly.
deleted_user
deleted_user
Deduct the cost of cleaning from his share of the profits or go for a quit-claim deed (if there is not too much equity). Your real estate agent should be able to talk to the attorney about that division.
deleted_user
deleted_user
Does he want the house to sell? Maybe he is purposefully doing this?

Perhaps an attorney can help you talk to him! (kind of kidding here, kind of not). Perhaps he should move out or buy you out.

I don't know your circumstances, but he doesn't sound very bright at the moment since there are so many nonsmokers these days.
deleted_user
deleted_user
try to talk to him calmly as hard as that will be. tell him what the real estate guy said, see what his response is. if you go in on the attack he'll just become defensive and you'll get no where. good luck. i like reinvents answer, can you deduct the 3000. from his share?
chowgirl
chowgirl
Thank you everyone for helping me stay calm. DS comes through again! I just talked to him, and he swears up and down he hasn't been smoking inside. He's going to buy some air freshener and see if that helps. Maybe the people who looked at it reacted to the ashtray outside. Maybe he's lying. Hard to say. Air freshener will help though, and if he's been standing inside blowing the smoke out the door (which I suspect is the case), this will be a wake up call that he can't do that. Maybe these people will make a decent offer, and I won't have to worry about that house anymore!
deleted_user
deleted_user
Another thought...sometimes buyers will make up ANY excuse under the sun to make themselves feel better for making a lower offer for the house.

Just a consideration...
deleted_user
deleted_user
Did he smoke in it before you moved?
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