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You are always going to be doing clean up with the Children over him.
Just never say anything bad against their father in front of them. You can swear and cuss all you want about him, but not in front of the kids.
Now as far as how to handle the ex, stress the importance of creating a synergistic relationship that's healthy for the kids. Just state your concerns about it not being fair for the kids to be in the middle of adult situations and then also, you should possibly talk to your attorney about this and as well document how the conversations went. Yes, you want a dad in their lives, but a healthy, non-conflicting one that's not bitter or resenting being broke. Maybe since he only has them on weekends, he has time to get a 2nd job to have enough money to take the kids somewhere. Also, the kids don't really care about going anywhere, rather spending quality time with dad, maybe watching a movie, playing games, going to the park, etc. That's what being a parent is, resourcefulness with limited resources at times.
I would try to have children around people who are happily married (not that good at this myself, though) and, perhaps, just casually provide a list of free weekend activities. that is really sad, though.
asked him rationally if we could chat about some concerns i have. hes going to fit me in his schedule to talk later today. ill let u know how that goes....