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Well,what to say.I belong to other forums,but have deliberately avoided anything to do with the divorce community.
I guess I was just trying to handle everything by myself.
But over two years later and I still talk about things-frustrating.
occasionally I've had a few meltdowns,usually after drinking.
Had another one last night.So I have to start to get to the bottom of what is going on and start dealing with this in a constructive manner or it's going to consume me.
The biggest issue is around my children,as the past few years have gone by there has been a constant slide in contact,information,visits.Everything.Now I find out that CAS is involved,I wasn't even told about this.
The story I got was it was because of how my son has been acting at school.But I suspect there's more to it than that.
Apparently when he was alone with the counsellor most of what he talked about was his anger at me and things that 'happened' while my ex-wife was at work,(the period she's talking about was when she was working midnights.While she was at work the children were asleep,so what the hell happened?)
Now don't get me wrong,I've made a lot of mistakes,and there is a lot that I have to atone for,but what I'm hearing just gets worse and worse every time I do hear something.
I'm not getting the full story and I know it,hopefully CAS getting involved is the start of getting to the truth behind everything.
I guess I was just trying to handle everything by myself.
But over two years later and I still talk about things-frustrating.
occasionally I've had a few meltdowns,usually after drinking.
Had another one last night.So I have to start to get to the bottom of what is going on and start dealing with this in a constructive manner or it's going to consume me.
The biggest issue is around my children,as the past few years have gone by there has been a constant slide in contact,information,visits.Everything.Now I find out that CAS is involved,I wasn't even told about this.
The story I got was it was because of how my son has been acting at school.But I suspect there's more to it than that.
Apparently when he was alone with the counsellor most of what he talked about was his anger at me and things that 'happened' while my ex-wife was at work,(the period she's talking about was when she was working midnights.While she was at work the children were asleep,so what the hell happened?)
Now don't get me wrong,I've made a lot of mistakes,and there is a lot that I have to atone for,but what I'm hearing just gets worse and worse every time I do hear something.
I'm not getting the full story and I know it,hopefully CAS getting involved is the start of getting to the truth behind everything.
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theatre and I are there already. I'm having a very berry tea with crackers, cheese and cherry tomatoes and she's having a joint with some beer and we're both on really comfy recliners on thick pile carpet. we need some help with the decor if anyone is around??
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I'm trying to exercise daily. I was doing fairly well until I sprained my ankle 2 weeks ago but now I'm getting back on the horse. Today I walked over a mile with my arm weights that are about 22lbs total. I was out of shape and it was hard on my arms. I also did my 30 situps. I'm also going to drink a lot of water and try to eat healthy. I do tend to have a sweet tooth but I'm cutting...
I sort of saw this coming with where things have been going in the past year.
I just hope that something positive can come from all this.
This route will be a way for me to get re-involved with the children without interference.
Every time I have gone to see them or spoken to them my ex hangs around,and does her best to get between me and my son.
This will be the start of the end of her interference and I can get re-involved with my children's lives.
I'm guessing that her cutting me off from them was the start of the problems and it has just spiralled due to her attitude.