
Breakups & Divorce Support Group
Just broke up with someone or in the midst of a difficult divorce? Breaking up is difficult no matter what the circumstances are. They say that time heals all wounds, but sometimes a listening ear or a hug can work wonders for the heart. Whether you need a place to vent, someone to hold you to No Contact, or need advice about what to do, we're here to help.

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I just found out that my husband of 9 years has been having an affair and I have asked him to leave. I am devestated. I knew we were having problems and had even began counseling but this has just floored me. I thought that online support might help. I guess I need to talk to others that have been where I am. How did you get through the first few weeks of your breakups? It has been two weeks since he left and my emotions are all over the place. If anyone out there is going through this with me...I am so sorry for your loss and please know that you are not alone.
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Take the first few weeks, the first few months really, to focus on yourself, and if you have children, your kids. Rediscover yourself, what you like to do, what you think is funny, and what you think is fun.
I have found that writing everything out helps puts things in perspective, and the journals are a good thing to have, especially as you continue down this path and are able to look back on them and see how far you have come.
The journal resource here is fantastic, and i recommend you use it. You can set things to private, friends only, or everyone. Some things you may want to the world to see, and others you may want to keep to yourself.
Whatever you do, do not think this is the end of the world. Although it may seem like one gigantic shit hurricane, even hurricanes pass and dissapate (sp?).
You will get through this if you focus on yourself.
If you are going to make the decision to get a divorce, then find a lawyer. Take care of yourself, and let the lawyer take care of the other stuff.
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And if you haven't, please make an appointment with a divorce attorney asap. Most offer free consultations. Find out your rights and how to protect yourself from what may come.
Good luck to you and I wish you all the best. If you begin to get depressed and stay depressed go seek treatment asap. It is a horrible thing and it is easy to treat with medicine. I ended up on something because of all that has come to bear in my life and some of my previous job stresses also built up on me at the same time.
((((((hugs)))))) Just stick around.
Welcome to our little breakfast club. We always feel for the new members who are freshly facing all the issues. We're sorry for your need to be here but hope we can be of help to you. Ask your questions, vent your sorrows and rages and pains, crack your first bitter jokes. People get through the initial devastation in a range of ways, from numbness to tears, from denial to rage. They stuff themselves or starve themselves. They work all the time or barely move. They beg to get it back the way it was, or plot their revenge. It's all normal.
One foot in front of the other.
to quote jac - 2003 of us!!
sorry you had to join us, but glad ya found us
weeks is so so so so so new
it'll take months..stick with us..we all been there done that and can help you thru the journey