Just my opinion, but I think you did great. If you were interested in having a conversation with them, then you should have gone over. If they chose to buy you a drink, that's nice. Be flattered and enjoy.

I gather the friend was male? The drinks stopped after he joined you? That's fine also. Sometimes a guy just likes to buy a girl a drink, sometimes it's an ice breaker, sometimes he wants something, and sometimes he's just nice. I believe in thinking the latter if you're not interested in pursuing more. It was nice. They were nice. And a couple of free drinks, is always nice.

P.S. You are not stupid!!!

(((Hugs)))

If he is a gentleman, it should simply be a compliment and perhaps an invitation to talk. If he is not a gentleman, the guy is expecting something in return - inappropriate. On a sidenote - be careful - it is easy for someone to slip something in your drink. It is best to only drink what you buy yourelf - or in my case - not at all ;-)

I would love to have someone buy me a drink...just for the flatterey. My stbx has hurt my self esteem, so that would be nice at this time, just to feel like a sexy woman agian.

I agree with Angel be flattered and enjoy..

Kulia, I would buy you a drink!

Good question BrocksMom.

I don't know what anything means in the dating world anymore.

Angel - yes my friend is male, but the second drink was ordered after he and I had been talking for a while. I was really hoping to get more guys points of view..... but thanks for boost of confidence.

JKL - thanks for the warning, but this is a place I KNOW the bartenders well I have shot pool there for over 4 years.

I know, this is still not a male point of view, but unless the person who sent you the drink knew that you and your friend are just that, or unless he ordered it prior to your friend arriving, I personally think that's in poor taste. Hopefully we can get some men in here to respond.

I hope so... cause the first guy was really hanesome and I wish I had the guts to go talk to him.

If I buy a girl a drink from across the bar, it is because she's really cute and I'd like to talk to her. It's an ice breaker and it lets the other person know you are interested in meeting them. Maybe you'll see the handsome one again and you can buy him a drink!

Brocksmom,
Just because a guy buys you a drink doesn't mean you are under any obligation to go and talk to him. What you did was fine. And really, If the one guy saw you thank him across the bar, then if he really wanted to pursue it, then he should have walked over to you and introduced himself to you.

If he is buying you a drink as an icebreaker and you thanked him across the bar you are not required to go over to him. If he wants to talk he will come over to you.

I agree with you, bowlingmom, sort of. If there is interest, the drink receiver should at least return the favor if not go talk to the drink buyer. If I buy a girl a drink, I want to talk to her. If she just gives me an acknowledgement from across the bar and nothing else, I'm not going to continue to pursue and go talk to the woman.

jlkrjl - ok, I'll take a martini. :-))

Ditto on reply #10 from another male perspective