Breakups & Divorce Support Group
Just broke up with someone or in the midst of a difficult divorce? Breaking up is difficult no matter what the circumstances are. They say that time heals all wounds, but sometimes a listening ear or a hug can work wonders for the heart. Whether you need a place to vent, someone to hold you to No Contact, or need advice about what to do, we're here to help.
So today, I get a postcard in the mail from exgf. First thing I notice is that it's all Coco Chanelled up...a clue. Then I read it:
Dear______:
I know it is not possible for us to keep in touch during this period where I learn to become self-sufficient. I am writing to let you know I hope we may speak again come August/Sept.. By than point, I know your heart may have hardened against me, or you may have found another love, and I've prepared meyself for this. But at the very least I would be so honored to keep you as a friend. Please keep your heart open to that possibility.
Love ______.
My heart is breaking all over again. The selfishness...that it is still only on her terms...that she thinks I will put my life and my heart on a shelf until August. This, a woman who I devoted every ounce of me to out of the deepest love I have ever experienced as an adult...and who ripped my trust and security suddenly assunder because she needed time to herself.
I am so hurt and angry. So very hurt and angry after just starting to heal myself a month afte the ending. I am so completely exhausted of feeling hurt and angry...I need a break from my feelings....my God how I need a break.
Dear______:
I know it is not possible for us to keep in touch during this period where I learn to become self-sufficient. I am writing to let you know I hope we may speak again come August/Sept.. By than point, I know your heart may have hardened against me, or you may have found another love, and I've prepared meyself for this. But at the very least I would be so honored to keep you as a friend. Please keep your heart open to that possibility.
Love ______.
My heart is breaking all over again. The selfishness...that it is still only on her terms...that she thinks I will put my life and my heart on a shelf until August. This, a woman who I devoted every ounce of me to out of the deepest love I have ever experienced as an adult...and who ripped my trust and security suddenly assunder because she needed time to herself.
I am so hurt and angry. So very hurt and angry after just starting to heal myself a month afte the ending. I am so completely exhausted of feeling hurt and angry...I need a break from my feelings....my God how I need a break.
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I gave my 2 week notice last Friday 13th. Now to join you fine people in a life of leisure and nothing else to do but to look out for myself....is it just me or does that sound pretty boring? My goal was to live to retire and I guess having to take early retirement because of health reasons wasn't exactly the way I had planned things. I just can't stay in that building that is reeking mildew...
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I'm trying to exercise daily. I was doing fairly well until I sprained my ankle 2 weeks ago but now I'm getting back on the horse. Today I walked over a mile with my arm weights that are about 22lbs total. I was out of shape and it was hard on my arms. I also did my 30 situps. I'm also going to drink a lot of water and try to eat healthy. I do tend to have a sweet tooth but I'm cutting...
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((hugs))
I am actually at a loss ... and can say I feel for you from the heart.
I am really sorry., bro.
Keep your chin up Sylph- you are way better than her, and deseve far better.
(((HUGS)))
It also may be more about their difficulty with ending things (grieving a loss) than keeping us around.
I feel your pain.... (((((((((hugs))))))))))
maybe not
it may just have been a moment of tenderness and kindness she wanted to extend
maybe just a message that she appreciates your humanity
who knows
the only important thing is how you feel
and how you soothe yourself
and how you make your own meaning out of it
I reached out a couple times in the beginning, I was "bleeding" emotionally, and still felt love, and so let that guide me when I was feeling so poorly nothing else was coming up to guide me
mistakes
we all make them
we're hurting
we need to be tender with ourselves
until the bleeding stops
((hugs))
Oh, the daydreams I've had recently. Photos sent to her parents, a nice roadside billboard with that phrase "I'm sorry? All I hear when you talk is 'Blah Blah Blah, I'm a dirty tramp' " alongside her Match.com picture, the list goes on. But I'm not bitter. Honestly...
Looks like the ball is in your court. You get to decide what to do now.