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deleted_user
deleted_user
long story short; i had a car accident 2 months ago, broke many bones, and lost a lot (all) my friends, except my ex.. I was with him from 19-23 years old, with 2 breakups- one he went overseas one he moved interstate to be with his son... I had not seen him for a year but spoke on the phone weekly, then i saw him after the accident and he said things like when he's with me his troubles dissapear, that he still finds me attractive ect, and we're spending lots of time together but being very responsible and going sweperate ways at bed time (something we've never done) I AM SO SCARED HE WILL HURT ME AGAIN and he is my ONLY friend in the world at themoment, i am so scraed he is seeing someone and that he doesn't still love me, which is ludicrous since we broke up for good over a year ago, i am terrified, and i know i sholdnt trust him, but he is the love of my life,, and i know this sounds like nonsense cos i'm only 24 but i met hikm when i was 8 and wrote in my diary "one day i will marry that boy" and i think i still believe it,, but i'm terrified, and have no-one to talk to about this, as he is the only friend i have.. help if you have any time to pleeease!!
GeocacherNY
GeocacherNY
sorry, I got nothing. you're still way early in the movie, it's a soap opera and what you make it. what comes first, instinct, logic? who knows.
deleted_user
deleted_user
thanks. i think i just realised i always have resorted to this sort of crap when i feel sad... dramatic heart shit.. but thanks for taking the time to read and reply, perhaps i'll think about what is really going on then post again. but thank you again.
GeocacherNY
GeocacherNY
I wish I had more for ya :) it should be the best years of your life, try to make it so ;)
patti22
patti22
Try not to overthink it! And try to get out there and make other friends. That will make you feel less desperate. Make friends everywhere you can. Rehabilitation, the park...wherever.

And just let relationship with him stay in the background. If more eventually comes of it great...but he shouldn't be your first priorty right now.
deleted_user
deleted_user
You are in a sticky situation. You are setting yourself up for heartache if he is seeing someone else. If you can prepare yourself for that, should it happen, and keep your options open waiting for him to commit to you, then I guess that is okay.

That aside, you need to develop a set of friends, especially other women who can keep you on the right path. I have a friend that either laughs at me when I am being stupid, or gives me a good mental shaking up when I need it.

It's not good to isolate you socialization to this one person. Something to think about.
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