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I attended my first mandatory Divorcing Parents education class this weekend and actually learned something helpful that I wanted to share.
I learned that when dealing with the STBX, I should always be thinking of him in my head as my daughter's other parent. Putting her first in my thinking, and not thinking negatively (my no good, selfish, son of a bitch ex-husband, for instance) will help me achieve a co-parental relationship with him which is the best for my daughter.
I tried it out this weekend and found it extremely helpful. It kept me calm and focused on my kids, not on all the things between us. Hope it can help you too!
I learned that when dealing with the STBX, I should always be thinking of him in my head as my daughter's other parent. Putting her first in my thinking, and not thinking negatively (my no good, selfish, son of a bitch ex-husband, for instance) will help me achieve a co-parental relationship with him which is the best for my daughter.
I tried it out this weekend and found it extremely helpful. It kept me calm and focused on my kids, not on all the things between us. Hope it can help you too!
now.. if he starts messing with me and making demands.... I tell him to talk to his lawyer. That cost money....and he does not like to part with his money...nor share it with his kids.
I make things fairly easy for him with the kids.. I bend over backwards to accomodate his schedule and I really do think they need to spend time with him.
Funny.. the more time they spend with him.. the less they want to be around him...lol