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No one understands it. Josh and I break up and get backtogether more times than I can count.Why do I keep breaking up with him and getting back together with him. I feel so alone and sad right now. I want to be with him but right now I am not ready to get married to him. I was in Des Moines Iowa back in June that is where he lives and he and I fight alot. I get so mad at him.I yelled and screamed at him.He has pushed me against a door by accident. Why do I pick the wrong type of people to be friends with and date. I just wish I knew how to let go of him and stop thinking about him. My head has been hurting me alot lately.
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this is how i look at some things, if i came on this site and told you to shut up and mistreated you. would you want to be around me? well i'm hoping your answer is NO, so why want them with someone who says they love you. a lifetime of abuse. you deserve better than that. especially at your age, don't start out that way and in 20 years wonder why it didn't work. you let go by not talking, calling, e-mailing, texting, but it is very hard to do. but it can be done. i'm almost to 60 days. i deserve to be happy, if that means being alone then ok. i will treat myself the way i deserve to be treated, lovingly respected. do this for yourself. the hurt and pain and fear and lonliness do go away, you have to hang in there.
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I understand your pain. But ask yourself this (thanks Linda, been thinking about this one) "What can He offer YOU?" It is so hard to let go of someone we love, I know. But think about what you really need and what you really want out of a relationship and out of life. Does he fit in there or not?
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These things don't go away after marriage. If anything, you're just giving him the opportunity to make you have more "accidents".

You need to break this cycle and break it off with this guy, do NOT go back to him.

I know, it's hard sometimes to think about not being with someone. But this is not the way you want to spend the rest of your life.
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