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So I called him and said that I really thing it's not a good thing for our girls (4 and 9) to see him w/ his girlfriend sleeping over so soon (we're separated since March).
He told me he was part of a "happy couple" now and that this could only be good for the kids. I pleaded with him to respect my sense of this -- not right to do sleepovers so soon. I asked him what the big deal was -- she has 2 kids (4 and 5) and I said that one night a week they should both be able to spend time with their own children and stop the sleepover thing until we're divorced. He called me crazy and controlling and said he was calling his lawyer (who???) in the morning.
I'm so crushed. I spoke from the heart. I told him that I was really just interested in what's best for the girls and that this seeemd to send the wrong message. (I gathered that his GF does not have custody of her own children).
WTF!!!! What should I do???? I've tried playing fair. I can't send them there knowing he's shacking up w someone while my kids are there. It seems to me that we'd be sending them the wrong message about the importance of family and marriage. All I asked was that he wait until divorce (5 months from now) is final to have GF sleeping in apartment w/ my kids.
He told me he was part of a "happy couple" now and that this could only be good for the kids. I pleaded with him to respect my sense of this -- not right to do sleepovers so soon. I asked him what the big deal was -- she has 2 kids (4 and 5) and I said that one night a week they should both be able to spend time with their own children and stop the sleepover thing until we're divorced. He called me crazy and controlling and said he was calling his lawyer (who???) in the morning.
I'm so crushed. I spoke from the heart. I told him that I was really just interested in what's best for the girls and that this seeemd to send the wrong message. (I gathered that his GF does not have custody of her own children).
WTF!!!! What should I do???? I've tried playing fair. I can't send them there knowing he's shacking up w someone while my kids are there. It seems to me that we'd be sending them the wrong message about the importance of family and marriage. All I asked was that he wait until divorce (5 months from now) is final to have GF sleeping in apartment w/ my kids.
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theatre and I are there already. I'm having a very berry tea with crackers, cheese and cherry tomatoes and she's having a joint with some beer and we're both on really comfy recliners on thick pile carpet. we need some help with the decor if anyone is around??
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I'm trying to exercise daily. I was doing fairly well until I sprained my ankle 2 weeks ago but now I'm getting back on the horse. Today I walked over a mile with my arm weights that are about 22lbs total. I was out of shape and it was hard on my arms. I also did my 30 situps. I'm also going to drink a lot of water and try to eat healthy. I do tend to have a sweet tooth but I'm cutting...
They Want, They Feel, They are Gonna Get...
Jeez...When don't they have their way??? Spoiled rotten Brats.
I am so sorry. I am sorry for what you are going to have to deal with, watching your children exposed to things that You never planned on. I am sorry for your Children.
I could tell you stories, but you will have your own to tell, soon enough.
Just love your kids and listen to them. That is all you can do. Adapt to whatever comes and try to have answers.
You know what? Don't worry too much. I predict this relaitonship won't last long.