Two steps forward, one step back. I keep wondering too, why this just wont go away. Too many years of the love to let it go in 3 months.

The phone is NOT your friend right now. Hand it to someone if you have to. Go write what you would have said in your Journal and hit Personal.

Just Don't Call.

Delete her email address, her phone number from your cell, etc. I have had the same dilemma the whole time. When we contact them or they us, it feeds them while taking away from us. Come to the reality of the situation and begin to take incremental steps toward your happiness. I KNOW it is hard. GO workout, go for a walk, call a family member or friend to talk you off the shelf. Do not feed her power, take yours back, NOW.

you will only end up hurting yourself. she is not the person you fell in love with anymore. That is something I had to remind myself of many times. The person I use to love is no longer there. She was replaced by a cold, uncaring, selfish person. You deserved to be treated better than how she treated you. Hang in there and stay strong. Don't call whatever you do.

You've come to the right place - DO NOT CALL HER. It is very difficult - we are going through hard times - it will get better.

I'm sorry, I've been there too--over and over again. Sometimes common sense won, sometimes the phone/email won. REgardless, breath and know that we are here for you.

don't let someone else have the power of rejecting you over and over. it will just make you feel sick. and then you'll beat yourself up over and over for getting in touch with her. stay strong. i'm at 55 days. he has e-mailed me three times, i answer cordially. because it's about my kids. (not his). i have to keep going forward in this journey and so do you. everyday gets just a tiny bit better. stay strong.

i'm probably not much help, i'm so weak right now in my own situation, but if you need me, i'm still here for you.

Don't do it!! Do you know how many times I called him and made an ass out of myself-Don't do that to yourself.

Try writing or calling yourself. Tell yourself all of the reasons you love you. Tell yourself why you miss the fun things you did and why they were fun.

Wow, I know exsctly how it is, even though we're still under the same roof for the next 6 weeks. I keep going to my fishing camper to let off steam and I end up calling her and we end up fighting. I know I shouldnt but part of me after 4 beers thinks I can talk her out of leaving me and thats just not going to happen-
You're not going to be able to let go of the love, thats the crappy part. You'll just need to find a place to push that love to the side and hope it stays there.

I know exactly what you mean. My mom sent me an e mail with a quote about falling in love by chance and falling out of love by choice with some stuff in the middle. I really wanted to send it to my STBX but didn't and now I am glad. hang in there. Trust me I know how tough it is. I would like to believe that my STBX fell in love with a strong, independent single woman and that strong woman would not e mail him or talk to him. I miss that person.

write a private letter to her in your journal of everythign you want to say. it'll help

I know just what you are going through. My stbx told me he knows how I feel I don't need to tell him all the time and when I do all I am doing is pushing him father away. So I am trying real hard to just leave it at on have to basics. Like where the boys are concerned. Trust me it is very hard. Good luck to you.

instead of picking up the phone to call her....grab a journal and WRITE your thoughts. dont forget to list reasons of why you are IN the place you are in now. trust me, calling her only sets you back...did this to myself for 6 mths---not an easy place to be when all you want is your old life back....it will get easier in time.