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I'm trying to get a new attorney but in the meantime want to compile a list of all the things that people got in their decrees that were good for them, the things they did not get and wish they had, and the things people have since experienced and would have liked to have a remedy for.
For example, I have heard many people say that the X is introducing new SOs to their children too soon or in a very inappropriate manner.
One thing I hope to get is a clause saying that neither of us can introduce a new SO who has been engaged in criminal activity, nor without the other parent agreeing to it.
Any more? I mean property, children, safety, the house, whatever.
Help!
For example, I have heard many people say that the X is introducing new SOs to their children too soon or in a very inappropriate manner.
One thing I hope to get is a clause saying that neither of us can introduce a new SO who has been engaged in criminal activity, nor without the other parent agreeing to it.
Any more? I mean property, children, safety, the house, whatever.
Help!
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theatre and I are there already. I'm having a very berry tea with crackers, cheese and cherry tomatoes and she's having a joint with some beer and we're both on really comfy recliners on thick pile carpet. we need some help with the decor if anyone is around??
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I'm trying to exercise daily. I was doing fairly well until I sprained my ankle 2 weeks ago but now I'm getting back on the horse. Today I walked over a mile with my arm weights that are about 22lbs total. I was out of shape and it was hard on my arms. I also did my 30 situps. I'm also going to drink a lot of water and try to eat healthy. I do tend to have a sweet tooth but I'm cutting...
Also, you need to address the tax consequences ie: who will claim the children in what years etc. That should be spelled out in the final decree so you won't have to go back to court to address it.
I am very pleased she did not get anything near what she truly wanted. That fact was a big help on the road to recovery. I know in my heart to this day she is fuming mad. For some reason this pleases me.
Your lawyer should spell out what you will get with accuraccy.
Neither can move our son more that 30 miles from the other.
Neither can have 'sleepovers' with a member of the opposite sex when son is present.
We will each do our best to help our son have a good relationship with the other.
Also, things like health care insurance for our son, school expenses, etc.
*I retain physical custody (we have shared legal custody)
*Court ordered CS payments
*All housing expenses paid(rent,utilities, home phone & cable) as long as I remain in this house. Upon moving, everything reverts back to agreed upon $$$ amount that is written into the divorce settlement. Presently the basic housing costs are a little over double of what the ordered CS payments would be.
*I maintain the health insurance for the kids (through my job). He is in no position to even afford ins for himself let alone the kids.
*I retain ownership of all life insurance on him.
Everything was cut and dry.
She had absolutely nothing when we met, and she likes to remind me of that and the fact that she is used to having nothing.
I have an attorney to protect myself and to get all of that in writing, but I really believe, even after what we are going through, that she is telling me the truth when she says she doesn't want anything from me financially.
He can't go back in a year and beg "Poor" and have it adjusted downward. I am the only one that can let him off the hook. (Yes, if he becomes ill and I am fine, I will end the agreement)
IF you have Alimony-that is something that I would suggest looking into.
Another thing-IF there is a chance of him being to make a "lump sum" settlement at Any Point before the Alimony would run its course, look into taking that-it might be a good deal for Both of you.