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Just broke up with someone or in the midst of a difficult divorce? Breaking up is difficult no matter what the circumstances are. They say that time heals all wounds, but sometimes a listening ear or a hug can work wonders for the heart. Whether you need a place to vent, someone to hold you to No Contact, or need advice about what to do, we're here to help.

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I'm looking around me and feeling so stupid for being 36 and not having anything to show for 11 years of marriage. I was a single mother when my ex met me, I had just finished putting myself through college.
I helped him through grad school and then we spent several years paying off my student loans and credit card bills from when he was in college.
I took our savings when I left - as my 1/2 of the equity in our house. We didn't own a house for very long. The money is enough to pay off my car and I hope to have a little left to put into savings - as long as he manages money ok during the next few months and I don't have to use it to pay for things and keep my credit good.
So here I am with only enough furniture for a small 1 bedroom apartment and my car and 2 dogs. That's all I have to show for all this. All these years spent being a mom, being a wife and now I have nothing. I hopefully won't have any debt when all this is said and done - but I'm worried because that's only if he keeps his act together and things all go ok with the divorce process.
I helped him through grad school and then we spent several years paying off my student loans and credit card bills from when he was in college.
I took our savings when I left - as my 1/2 of the equity in our house. We didn't own a house for very long. The money is enough to pay off my car and I hope to have a little left to put into savings - as long as he manages money ok during the next few months and I don't have to use it to pay for things and keep my credit good.
So here I am with only enough furniture for a small 1 bedroom apartment and my car and 2 dogs. That's all I have to show for all this. All these years spent being a mom, being a wife and now I have nothing. I hopefully won't have any debt when all this is said and done - but I'm worried because that's only if he keeps his act together and things all go ok with the divorce process.
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I think you underestimate that education and the time, effort it takes to get it done, and paid for.
Hold on to those 11 years that you paid for in the lessons learned in life, and move forward to a new LIFE with lessons that are positive and continue making you a priority.
Loveya!
J
When I moved into thus apartment I had a bed..two mattresses sitting on the floor...Actually they're still on the floor...I had a pot, a pan, a plate, a glass, a fork and a spoon. I walked away from the place we shared together with a TV...I didn't take our bed..actually I took very little...I took a few clothes and just bought more...I'm 33 and I didn't have half as much as you did in a savings account...My point is that I was perfectly fine with it and knew I would be ok...and so will you.
Time to think positive and be grateful for what you have now..you have accomplished a lot and you are standing strong still.
After 26.5 years.. well I have little.. not even a bed to sleep in at night.
we bought the house one year before the divorce....a steal of a deal from my folks...I have 3 little girls, we are doing okay, we are surviving...we know we are free, we have less stress now.
so.. poor material wise...but rich in heart, hope and spirit... you have to know you have survived a lot... the rest is just stuff.
Material things can be replaced, but know sense of self is worth everything! It's ok to vent..we're here for you.