Breakups & Divorce Support Group
Just broke up with someone or in the midst of a difficult divorce? Breaking up is difficult no matter what the circumstances are. They say that time heals all wounds, but sometimes a listening ear or a hug can work wonders for the heart. Whether you need a place to vent, someone to hold you to No Contact, or need advice about what to do, we're here to help.
Another day and I want to just go back to bed and get up when this is over. As I have made clear, I am so in love with my husband. Yes, I asked him to leave because of his behavior. I guess deep down, I hoped and I thought he'd change and come back. I guess I still give him too much credit. Over the past 6 yrs each time we'd split up, we'd be back together in a few days, with him telling me what I wanted to hear. Some times actions followed, but clearly they didn't last or I wouldn't be here. I just want to do the right thing. I love him more than I have ever loved anyone. I have never hurt like this. I can't sleep and it is hard to function. Should I keep praying and hold on my faith that he will come around? And take the chance of him being with all the women on the dating sites he is on? Or do I run to him and tell him we need to start working on restoring our marriage. I know that he would agree to do that. Not sure how much effort he would put toward it. It is harder living without him that it was to live with him. I really can't take this horrible aching pain much longer.
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theatre and I are there already. I'm having a very berry tea with crackers, cheese and cherry tomatoes and she's having a joint with some beer and we're both on really comfy recliners on thick pile carpet. we need some help with the decor if anyone is around??
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I'm trying to exercise daily. I was doing fairly well until I sprained my ankle 2 weeks ago but now I'm getting back on the horse. Today I walked over a mile with my arm weights that are about 22lbs total. I was out of shape and it was hard on my arms. I also did my 30 situps. I'm also going to drink a lot of water and try to eat healthy. I do tend to have a sweet tooth but I'm cutting...
If you are willing to take what he gives you, then take him back. But stop trying to change him-it won't work. He has to want change on his own.
Good luck with your decissions...My heart goes out to you.
I know that it hurts like hell and it's impossible to turn off your love for your husband! You can't control your husband's actions, but you can control your own. Are you willing to accept this behavior? I suggest that if HE wants to change than he needs to put some actions into effect WAY before you're ready to consider taking him back. He should create a "new history" that you can trust.
My X continues to tell me how much he loves me and how he'll do ANYTHING to fix this (we've been divorced since Oct. 23). But he hasn't stopped drinking/drugging/lying or his irresponsible behavior. He hasn't even sought counseling. Actions speak louder than words. Even though I still love my X, I can't accept his behavior. I deserve better and so do my children. I'd rather be alone, than always worrying about where he's at, what he's doing, and who he's with.
I'm so sorry that you're going through this painful time! You'll find great support here! BIIIG HUG!
damned if you do..
I wish you peace. And freedom from this chaos.
Have you tried to get counseling for yourself?
It may help you to find perspective. It did for me.
and one of the lines was, "the definition of insanity is doing the same thing the same way over and over again expecting a different result." Not to say your insane but to say that if you do decide to try w/ your husband again try approaching it differently. Start w/ babt steps and try going on a first date again and getting to know each other as you are now. You may decide you don't like what you see.
I understand your pain and would like to help you understand that you really cannot change a person... It is impossible! Please be kind to yourself and stop the "insanity"... Big hugs!
Don't allow him to determine your emotions and feelings. You should not give him that much power over you.
Take care of yourself right now.
"He made me so much happier than he has ever hurt me."
WHAT A CROCK OF SH**!!!!!
But thanks for reminding me that I was so lost in lonliness that I couldn't believe I'd be able to survive without him.I need a kick in the butt evry once in a while and you helped me remember how strong I really am.
You will feel that too.You don't believe it now but it's true.
Self love is very important,self discovery and getting intouch with our deeper self.
You as an individual must ask yourself do i deserve this?Put more value on your self and recognize that you deserve only good.
The pain is part of the grieving process as hard as it is go through with it and when that phase pass you will think differently i hope.