p.s. Yet he SAYS nothing has happened between the two of them and NOTHING was going to happen.

I am so sorry to say this to you but it doesn't sound good. I would start preparing myself. You need to have a plan. Don't get blindsided like me. He is sending you enough signals.

Allways listen to your inner
Voice, Allways!
I'm sorry for what you are about to go through. :-(

I am filing in the morning. I called him at work yesterday and told him not to come back into the house while I'm still here. I left him a suitcase on the porch. I told him he will not stand in my way and he will be helpful so that I can get on my own two feet or I will show up at his work and make scenes he cannot imagaine- not to mention I'll go to his family and friends and tell them everything. I got an apartment today and most of my stuff is packed. I found an attorney I have a good feeling about. I'm dividing up things fairly I think but I'm making sure that I get what I need. I did take his rolex watch to keep as collateral. (It's easier to give things back later than take them later right?) I took our savings and put it into an account in my name. It's enough to pay off my car with a little left over. If all goes to plan, I shouldn't have any debt because he makes much more than me and will be left with the house, etc. My car should be paid off but I'll have to live in an apartment until I can get my own house down the road. I'm going to ask for spousal maintenance so that he can help put me through school like I put him through school and now he has income more than twice mine. I don't know if will get all this but I'm going to try. I know that I need to stay strong and put my own needs above everything else. I have these moments of weakness that are just wearing me down.

p.s. So far he's telling me I can have and do whatever I want. But I don't know if he will change his tune or not. I think that I should act quickly and guilt him to the max. (But I feel guilty because this is not how I usually am.)

I don't know what's up with me but I can't stop writing! Months, years of all this is finally just all coming together and I just have to get it OUT.

wow you really have your act together... good for you my friend....

Three years is a long time, with many hour and dollars spent with/for someone else. If you take a few dollars now, do you really think that it would come close to making things even? Do what you need to to get on your feet...you deserve it. Not about punishing anyone, about helping YOU. Like I said, he was willing to spend time and money 'helping' someone else, and you deserve it more! Don't get mad...Get Healthy.