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deleted_user
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My ex just moved out after 3 years together. My kids (both 7 years old) considered him their father and he has treated them as his own. They keep asking why he wont come back. I am at a loss for what to tell them. And he doesnt even know if he wants to see them, for now he says they can call. They are heart broken. How do you help them?
diemjs
diemjs
Love them the best you know how. Lots of hugs and kisses and many times a day, tell them you love them and will always be with them.
deleted_user
deleted_user
Tell them that this is about him, that he needs to 'take care of some things to be happy', and that they did nothing wrong, (because even though they may not say it, they will think it). And reassure them that you love them more than anything and will be there for them.
deleted_user
deleted_user
let them call him, wow this is tough, i agree hug them and love them, this is reaaly tough, sorry i don't have much to offer.
deleted_user
deleted_user
I had to tell mine that "WE WILL BE OKAY!!!" and "I WILL NEVER LEAVE YOU!!!" and "LET'S DO SOMETHING SPECIAL... WHAT DO YOU WANT TO DO?" everytime the x walked out without a word.... it confused them too... and, they are teenagers now, and I often remind them that leaving someone like that is very cruel. I sure hope they never do what they experienced as young children!
deleted_user
deleted_user
and, best of luck to you - I know that answering those kinds of questions are just heartbreaking - nothing worse than seeing your kids hurt! big hugs!
deleted_user
deleted_user
Wow. Up and leave kids behind. What the hell is wrong with this world? Everytime I get on here, I see more and more parents leaving their kids behind. And yes, those children should be considered his kids.
I have a son who I have been raising since he was 2 years old. Hes 13 now, and he still lives with me. Im his dad, though I would never get in the way of his real dad. But I am the man who is there for him, for whatever he needs. His mother left about a month ago, but I know that I will always be there for him.
Im sorry your ex doesnt see this the same way as you and I. Just make sure you tell them that you will always be there. You will NEVER leave them. You can raise your children on your own. Be strong, and lean on any friends that you can trust right now...God bless you and your children.
deleted_user
deleted_user
I'm sorry u have to go though this. I know how heart breaking this is. My stbx moved out 7 months ago and my kids r still asking when daddy is moving back home. It truly sad that people can walk away from ther kids.
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