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Hi all,
I am currently going through a horrible experience. I have been divorced for 2 years and my ex-wife is still being abusive. Everyime we have to negotiate of getting access to our son, she is abusive beyond reason. She says things like "I Own you", "I wish you were dead", "I screwed seven other guys when we were married", "fuck you" etc...
I really love my son and want to spend time with him but the pain of dealing with my X is massive. I have depression and anxiety. I had a breakdown when we split and ended up in hospital, she knows I am unstable emotionaly and I feel she is deliberately trying to affect my depression.
It's coming to a point that not seeing my son is less painful than dealing with my X as it is now affecting me so deeply that I am becoming more and more ill.
I have such a deep wound, I'm not sure I'll ever heal. I have so much pain, anger and sadness deep within me. I feel like its eating me alive.
Arghhhhhhhhhhhhhhh.
Help me. Please!!!
I am currently going through a horrible experience. I have been divorced for 2 years and my ex-wife is still being abusive. Everyime we have to negotiate of getting access to our son, she is abusive beyond reason. She says things like "I Own you", "I wish you were dead", "I screwed seven other guys when we were married", "fuck you" etc...
I really love my son and want to spend time with him but the pain of dealing with my X is massive. I have depression and anxiety. I had a breakdown when we split and ended up in hospital, she knows I am unstable emotionaly and I feel she is deliberately trying to affect my depression.
It's coming to a point that not seeing my son is less painful than dealing with my X as it is now affecting me so deeply that I am becoming more and more ill.
I have such a deep wound, I'm not sure I'll ever heal. I have so much pain, anger and sadness deep within me. I feel like its eating me alive.
Arghhhhhhhhhhhhhhh.
Help me. Please!!!
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She won't go to mediation to sort this out. I can't reveal to her how much pain this is causing me as it will confirm to her that her actions are having the desired effect.
I feel untterly helpless and alone in this.
I'm beginning to think my mental health is more important than dealing with the ex. I feel torn between the love i have for my son and the need to protect myself from her. It's really shit
Thanks all. It's really helpful being able to let it all out and not burn my friends with it.
Look, I understand that you're hurting. But pull it the hell together. I read several excuses here about why you don't want to do something. You don't want to take the abuse, but you don't want to try other avenues to resolve the issue. You aren't holding to your boundaries to protect yourself... and who gets hurt as a result? Your son.
Sir, I would run through a burning building to save my child. I would die to save him. And you're saying you aren't willing to take every reasonable course of action possible to ensure your son gets to be with you?
Wow. Just Wow.
She's still the Mother of your child, and your child sees and hears "everything".
Try to meet at a location, and ignore all her foul mouth, and just smile and walk away.
You child will remember your kindness, and respect you more at the end.
Pray that things will change for better, and it will.
God Bless,
You know what? I'm going out to buy a punch bag tomorrow and get it out on that. Better than beating myself up. Depression is such a killer. It disables your ability to cope, saps your strength and makes you hate yourself for no reason.
My stbx is a big jerk! So we only now communicate via email, and I am keeping that to as min as possible because he is really being an ass.
Maybe the court could appoint a go between. I have heard that that is an option in many states. ( I dont know which ones)
Part of overcoming depression is allowing yourself to stand up for yourself.
You are in my prayers! You are trying so hard, the answer will come to you.
Hold onto this - "First our children love us, then they judge us and sometimes they forgive us"