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Hell be back????

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I keep hearing that. People say he is going to see how miserable he is without me and he will be back.
I don't know if it is "keeping hope" OR "God, I don't want to deal with him"

I don't know what to think.

Have any of you that have been dumped, dealt with it only to have them try to come back? Chances are??????

I know, I'm chasing......
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Mine has left me and come back so many times. Finally its over and he is having a really hard time I couldn't deal with all the turmoil anymore so I ended it for good. Its hard though they make you feel like you didn't try hard enough or everything will change in our case it was good for the first 2 weeks and then would go right back to the way he was before.
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Yes! I deserve better and will accept nothing less. In fact not too long ago someone told me he was coming out to where I live. I sent him a message saying "if you show up here I WILL get a TRO".
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He might if that's his style.

So, you should ask yourself whether you really want him back, or are just addicted to him or the relationship.
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Whether or not he comes back shouldn't matter. The real issue is that he probably didn't treat you the way that you needed to be treated and you still want him back.

Don't worry you are not alone. Alot of us have put up with unimaginable abuse and when the relationship is over we still long for the person to come back. We shouldn't wait for them to. Worry more about where you go from here
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Whether or not he comes back shouldn't matter. The real issue is that he probably didn't treat you the way that you needed to be treated and you still want him back.

Don't worry you are not alone. Alot of us have put up with unimaginable abuse and when the relationship is over we still long for the person to come back. We shouldn't wait for them to. Worry more about where you go from here
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Mine asked for his freedom...didn't like it much, then asked me for a divorce two years later...Yeah they sometimes come back...then leave again.
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DON't CHASE....STOP. Remind youself that the pain they inflicted is not worth continuing.

Mine left. I don't want him back. Am I still hurting yes but it's over something that wasn't there for a long time. Still must heal.
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he'll be back, but it won't help you to heal. realistically, he'll be back for the comfort and support.

mine tried to come back, and it wasn't til after i told her no that her reasons for returning were dubious at best.
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I've had people tell me the same thing. I've been chasing too, not sure why he treated me really bad. I guess it's a codependant thing...truth is we are better off without them, we just have to believe that.
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the proverbial "cross that bridge when you get there..."
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He may come back mine has 4 times but the problems that caused him to leave are still there. Everytime he comes back , it is a shorter amount of time and honestly nothing between us ever changes.

He was trying to come back again and i was ready to take him back but guess what it lasted 3 days this time. I will not take him back. I will not be sucked back in again.

Do what is best for you and if he does come back make sure it is for the right reasons
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