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He seems so happy

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Why does the stbx get to be happy and he is the one that screwed up so bad. He is the one that committed adultery but I am the one that has to be so unhappy.
STBX & OW still act like the perfect couple and its been almost a year. Will his true colors really come out soon or were they meant to be?
I just don't see how they can be so happy.
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Rebound relationships don't last sooner or later they will start to have their conflicts. Hang in there!
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My x husband married the OW and just by coincidence I met someone who knew them and told me how the OW was obsessed that he was cheating on her. She knew what goes around comes around. Cheaters cheat. He will just move onto someone else and deep down she knows that.
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happy or not they will get what they deserve. You are unhappy now, but the time will come when you will be happy again, and having experienced all the pain and sadness you will truly know what joy an happiness are.
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who CARES if HE seems happy?? Don't obsess about how 'wonderful' HIS life is.. concentrate on yourself.

You're worth it.

he's not.
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sportoh: That is so true. Probably the #1 rule of relationships is "Never be with someone who left someone for you, because soon enough they will leave you for someone else".

I always find it amazing when people in those situations get surprised! What were they expecting?
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I feel the same way. It has been very hard dealing with the divorce especially since the only reason for the divorce is because of the changes that he made. It has been so hard to get over my 17 year marriage. I truly loved him and did anything for him. I know that I have a hard time dealing with everything and his life just seems to be happily moving on. I have heard over and over again that KARMA finds its revenge. He wont be happy forever, and his new relationship is not based on a good foundation.

For now, I need to stop thinking about him and the new person in his life and just concentrate on making my life happy (easier said than done). It takes a lot of strength and patience. It is so hard to do but in the end, I should be rewarded for my efforts and find happiness within myself and be able to share that happiness with someone else. At least that is what I have to tell myself and believe in.
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He is not happy-people like him do not even know how to recognize and enjoy true happiness-My X was so happy with the OW-she was out the door and a new one in within a year.That right 2 LTR-in the time we were seperated-even before we filed for divorce.Happiness evades them-that is why they move on the way they do.
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Wen16 - I'm not so sure I believe in Karma. I think people who make stupid decisions or hurt other people put themselves in places where they end up getting hurt themselves. People call it Karma, I just think they allow themselves to be in situations that a normal caring person would not do, hence they end up in trouble in one way or another.

As you said, forgetting aout him and the OW is easier said than done, but given time it will get easier and you will get stronger. You will be happy again, its just going to take a little time to get back to being yourself again.
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"If they'll do it with you, they'll do it to you"

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