Don't listen to what others say. (friends and therapist). IF you are ready, go for it. You know your heart. A dinner out, or just some activity out is okay. Getting serious may not be of the plan now, but go have some fun for you....That guy waiting for you will still wait....go have a dinner with him...or something fun!

i agree. there is nothing wrong w/a little dinner. keep it innocent and take it slow.

I feel the same as you do. She has moved on but, I seem to can't get a date. I am not unattractive but, women don't want to date me bc I am getting a divorce. Sad but, true. Hang in there and go get that dinner and be careful.

You know I always like to here from people that have gone through things like this and gain experience. For me, right now my emotions are so messed up, i feel very lonely and I really dont trust my judgment. For me that means hanging with friends and family.

date away...just be careful. there iis a reason that the phrase rebound has been around. there really is a rebound, no matter what the relationship was with the ex, good/bad - there is a hole to fill - like an addiction. for the most part, you don't sense it, but it is so easy to fill the hole with another, thus rebound. i am sure that you, as my self, are saying no marriage anytime soon, but there seems to be many people who get too serious too soon. remember, 1st time marriage divorce rate 50%, second marriage 75%. If you were not married, but dated, there will still be the rebound effect. just be cognizant of this issue when dating. but go out, have fun - this is an acceptable time to be vindictive, date and your ex will really start to feel heat under the collar.

There really isnt an exact time per say. I think Dr.'s always try to estimate by how you talk and feel and describe your emotions to them to determine whats a good time line.

But overall...it depends on how you feel emotionally and mentally....and even physically. I was ready after 4 months...but then again me and my X are good friends. It was just the first 2 months that killed me daily. Anyhow....I say go by how you feel. Maybe thats all you need is a night out...and someone paying attention to you. At the same time being social is very helpful. I hope some of this made sense.....take care and stay strong (((hugs)))

I understand the desired part. But may I ask why you think youare ready to date? And what is the reason for wanting to get out there and date? But I do agree with kctrue,

pink, there is nothing wrong with wanting to date. YOU will know when YOU are ready. YOU can NOT listen to what other people say/tell you. YOU know yourself the best. IF you are NOT ready to date, there is NOTHING wrong with having a "platonic" friendship with this guy. IF this guy is "true to his word," He will understand & RESPECT YOUR WISHES. I wish you the BEST OF LUCK!~! "Keep Your Chin UP!~!"

everyone else giving advice or guidance is not YOU, you have to make the choices and decide what is best for you. you are your responsibility. be careful of rebound relationships. go have fun.

I don't see anything wrong with it. But BEWARE. All the divorce self help books and my therapist warn that many people run to another relationship to avoid processing the pain and doing the work to fix yourself. Then what happend is you make the same mistake or you break up with your rebound relationship and you are in more pain then you were before because you must process your lost marriage and a lost relationship. KEEP IT Platonic.

I feel so strongly about this......there is nothing that says that you should wait a certain amount of time before moving on, nothing that says you should take things slow, and nothing that says you should feel bad or guilty because you do. Whilst you're standing still because you feel it is what is expected of you, you could be letting the real love of your life pass you by. The fact that you are feeling ready to move on is all you need to know. Amen.
Perhaps in your situation your heart and mind had already acknowledged your relationship ending months or years ago, and now the physical side of separating has just caught up.
Life is short, go and find happiness if you really do feel you are ready. Good luck xoxo

I think a little ego boost is great.

As long as, as everyone has said, you don't dive headlong into anything.

Sure, you can rebound if you want

http://www.forbeginners.info/dating/rebound-relationships.htm

http://wiki.answers.com/Q/What_is_a_rebound_relationship



http://divorcesupport.about.com/od/romanceafterdivorce/p/reboundrelation.htm