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he kisses the new lady in frt of our granddaughter

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and we are not even divorced yet! I was so mad when I heard this. How dare he carry on in front of our grandchildren who don't understand what is going on. She is only 5 and she couldn't understand why that lady was kissing Pappa. I told him if it happened again before we were divorced, he had better remember what kind of temper I can have and watch out - both of them! Then I hung up the phone and cried and cried and cried because it is really over and it hurts so bad!
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I am so sorry for your pain. It really is all about them, they don't realize that this is hurting so many others. I wish there was something for the pain, when I find it I will pass it your way. Just know you are not alone.
verbra
verbra
It's okay Kathy58 get your tears out. I know it hurts but it does get better in time. He was wrong for doing that in front of your grandaughter but sometimes they will do things to just piss us off! Stay strong we are here for you.
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I too feel for you and more importantly for your grandaughter! People just don't think do they...so unfeeling, uncaring...I will never understand what goes on in some people's minds!
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My stbx did the same thing to our grandkids.He even hung pics on his wall of all of them and we don't have any pics of us with the kids.My son-in-law said he was acting like a teenager who got his first taste of nooky.
He didn't even have the guts to tell them what was going on.I told them and I didn't mince words.Although my youngest grandson got him good.he kept asking to go see his granny and wouldn't even let this other woman get near him.He told her she wasn't his granny and he didn't want her kissing his granddaddy.
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I don't understand how they can be so blind but I have to learn to accept it and go on with my life. The pain will go away - I will not let it rule my life. thanks for the kind and helpful comments
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When our STBX's get their happy buzz on from their new thrill in life, they seem to lose what little bit of common sense they once had. I truly understand the desire to slap him silly, but crying and beating up on a pillow may be more productive. Hang in there.
solongbye
solongbye
selfish inconsiderate immature idiots, there does it cover it all?
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deleted_user
That is so gross, I am just thunderstruck. If I were the parents of those children, I would make sure it did not happen again. Very confusing and hurtful.
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oh believe, my duaghter read him the riot act. First he tried to deny it, but a 5 yr old can't make up that kind of story, they just don't know that kind of stuff so he finally shut up and agreed it wouldn't happen again. Pounding on a pillow sounds like good advice because I don't want to get in trouble because of her. Thanks for the suggestion.

He confuises me so much - he wants the divorce but he offers to help me with my scooter so I can go Christmas shopping and has offered to help me move into my hew place - why - he doesn't want me because he has to 'take care' of me too much but then he offers to? CONFUSED!
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