Of course!! Who else would you blame?
That is a wonderful experience though right,, you can tell me all about it!

hey maclori, i too am an RN, have worked mother/baby unit and attended deliveries...what a true miracle life is, so brand new. it really is an awesome experience to share in someone else's new gift? many more to come, enjoy! you'll have LOTS of stories to tell, and we here at DS would love to listen, RIGHT DS?!

So sorry :-( Well, you don't HAVE to blame him. Your husband/stbx husband doesn't sound like a sociopathic narcissist - which would almost make moments like this harder I would think. He must have made quite a few positive contributions to your relationship or you wouldn't still want to share special things with him. I think what you are going through is the kind of grief you experience in death - when you have to re-experience the loss at unexpected times of need or joy or sorrow. You forget that they are not there :-( Grief is a complicated and sometimes long process. Be gentle with yourself it will help you heal XO

Congratulations, that is HUGE. I think it is a natural reaction for one to instinctively reach out to an ex during periods of jubilation or pain. even at the beginning of a new relationship, it will probably be an issue, you know that accident of slipping and calling the new by the old name. it will fade as the relationship becomes more solidified.

I feel the same. Who do you share your most enjoyable moments with now that they're no longer there?? I keep telling myself that I need to find someone else to share them with. That's the answer I reckon. You have control over who you can share it with.

i know the feeling,so much has gone on in my life since the break-up and yes i feel the same way, he would be the one i tell everything to, and it's really hard, but that feeling will subside, and congrats, great job, birth is such a miracle. and i would also love to hear the story.

don't blame anyone. think of starting anew and sharing the experience with the ppl that were with you when it happened. you don't even know how he'd ahve responded anyway, so count as your own personal achievement, and CONGRATULATIONS as well, thanks for sharing with your friends here on DS! only 10,000 moer to deliver as your career progresses right?

Took me a while to get over the things I Would call HER for, just to share. Had to learn to appreciate myself, alone.

I felt that way also, for a while. It's better now. And yes you can blame him. But in the end, you're the one who has to deal with it. We're all here and would love to hear the story!

It'll get better, I promise!

That's incredible!! To help bring a life like that into the world is an experience anyone with a soul envies. I don't think it's bad that you want to share this experience, as you were used to having him by your side for all the previous ones. The problem lies in sharing it with the person he is now, versus the one he used to be. You're looking for gratification and sharing a moment from someone who no longer sees you in the same light. I think in some way, we all 'wish' they would magically reappear like they were in a coma and walk with us out of the darkness, but apparently, we ask too much from them. You're doing a great job!

Yes, blame him. You didn't make the decision to be alone, you chose each other and were supposed to be there for each other, and he bailed. Yes, blame him....but also feel sorry for him. He doesn't get to be a part of your life anymore. He doesn't deserve those special calls from you. One day you will have someone new to listen, until then...share them with us!! We want to hear.

CONGRATULATIONS! Thanks for sharing it with us. I think that's awesome!

Try really hard to focus on the great experience. If you think of him, you lose the great in your thoughts! Tell your best friend about things you once shared with him, tell us. Heck, if he is like mine, which he probably is, we CARE more than he does. Take today and make it great!! Just like you!!