I had been with my husband for over 25+yrs,then 6wk,s before christmas last year,he told me i,ve met someone else and i,m moving out cuz i can,t live without sex and she,s married to a womaniser who has kicked her outta their home but she,s got three kids 23 18 and 16yrs and there staying with their dad,he also burnt all her belongings so i,ve told her she can come live with me! the reason i,m moving out is because i could never have sex with her while i,m living with you under the same roof! in a few simple sentences my world fell apart,this man who i thought i knew this man who knew i was sick when we married this man who said no matter what i will never leave you,did just that! when we married i was in total renal failure and had just finished a bout of chemo,well to cut a very long story short i even told him the night before we married you can still back out if you want to? well he assured me there was no way he,d ever leave me,he was in the army and i was an army wife for 18years years,i was there for him when he had post tramatic stress syndrom i was there when he turned on me and told me he hated me! i was there when he got drunk so many times and was ill all over the carpet,when he was drinking to try and blot out the pain of seeing his friends blown to bit,s and i never complained,throughout all of this i was working and bringing our son up and keeping our house clean,several time,s i could have left him several times i could have had an affair but i didn,t through out all this i got my cancer back and i also had numerous bouts in hospital yet i never complained,i knew what kind of life i would have as my dad had been in the services,well my husband got outta the army after serving 27yrs he walked straight into a new civvy job we got our house our son left school and got a job,and then i was having problems with my only kidney,i just put it down to moving,then june 08 i,d had enough so i went back to see my doctor to be told i had cancer again,i went into hospital in august 08 i ended up losing my bladder and my only kidney,i was in hospital several time,s and normally my husband would have come up everynight but he didn,t i put it down to him being tired,well i rang one night to talk to our son told me,i,m sorry mum i can,t come up cuz dad,s off out to the pub,i was more than a little annoyed but i let it go,then when i came outta hospital,he would get snappy at me calling me names,he didn,t even want to know what treatment if any i was having,then 6wk,s before christmas he told me he was leaving, i have manganed to get my life back on track and despite all the chemo and the other treatments [i have gotta lump on my breast and i will find out wed,s if it is back i.e my cancer]i am niw back in hospital with a broken back but i have finallt got used to being by myself,he rang me last week asking how i was??? i was polite then he dropped the bombshell,he was spiltting up with his old dog and he asked if i would stop the divorce proceedings? i couldn,t believe it this man has flaunted his whore all round the town he has called me all sort,s of names and he has verbally knocked me until i wanted to die,then he tell,s me he wants to see about getting back with me!HE! was the one who had this affair and broke my heart,and now he think,s i,m being selfish by not wanting him back! he think,s he can come back and i,ll welcome him back with open arm,s! i,d really welcome any advice right now??
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