
Breakups & Divorce Support Group
Just broke up with someone or in the midst of a difficult divorce? Breaking up is difficult no matter what the circumstances are. They say that time heals all wounds, but sometimes a listening ear or a hug can work wonders for the heart. Whether you need a place to vent, someone to hold you to No Contact, or need advice about what to do, we're here to help.

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My H cheated and now I feel as though I get to pay for his mistake. The OW is pregnat too. We don't have kids together but i have a wonderful step-daughter that i cant imagine not seeing. We've only been together for 3 yrs but married 11months. If he cheated this early into out marriage is it worth staying. Lately I have to be the one to beg him to talk to me!? He says he's sorry but right now those words mean nothing to me. If i leave I lose everything, he only loses a wife he cheated on. My mind doesnt stop. All I hear is that it'll get better...WHEN? He lost his job 2.5 months ago and still doesnt have one (not like him) and it seems like w/ the expierence he has he could get one. So i get to go through all of this, AND try to keep my head clear enough to pay all the bills. I love him so much so i'm not sure i can forgive him, not sure i want to. I feel like i'm in a room full of ppl an im screaming yet no one can hear me? The OW is supposidly going to have an abortion(she changes the date everytime) and thus he has to remain her 'friend' or she'll 'keep it out of spite.' So i also get to deal with him talking to her for HOURS(4-7) @ a time, whether it be on the phone or at her house. he says hes doing it for me, for us. well if i meant that much to him, why did he cheat in the first place?????
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Run...for your life, you deserve better!
My son's divorce will be final any day now. His wife didn't cheat on him..but the things she did do...well lets just say i never need to see her again...EVER!
Leave that trash in the gutter, walk away with your pride and dignity. Thank God that He graced you with you that! It's sure missing in your husband and OW.
Sorry you have been so mis-treated. Don't stick around for more!
Not a big fan of OW..but she can, and should, handle her pregnancy however she wants to.
Affair aside..there are many other things that he is doing that would concern me.
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Choosing to stay in your marriage will mean disregarding your feels to have someone sleep next to you at night. This is something you have to figure out. You have to be woman enough to chose...you or them? Because he is no longer one person he is a man with a mistress and a child. Accepting him means accepting them.
Your husband does not place a high value on you. He thinks about his own selfish needs. Did he care that there was/is a possiblity that his daughter may have to disrupt ties with you. He think about the implications of making someone pregnant? NO!!!!!!!! Like Lane80 told you. run fast, and as far away as possible. LOVE YOURSELF