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Having an emotional bad day...

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It has been 2 months since my STBX moved out, and I have the kids this weekend, I am trying to hang in there and be strong. I don't want them to see Mom cry, but I just can't help think, that he doesn't care after 20 years. I tell everyone that I am doing okay, but these past two days have been so hard for me. I guess it started it out, when I heard he had broken it off with the OW, because she was being too "clingy" and now they are back together, because she told him that she will be different. Why? Do I still care? Am I stupid or what?
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No you are not stupid. I am feeling the same way and I beat myself up over this situation. Maybe I shouldn't but, I do. We just need to be strong and it's easier said then done. I am having a hard time doing this myself. I am still hoping that we can work out our marriage so, I hold onto her. Maybe one day I will be strong enough to let go.
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I would think the news about the other woman would bring you happiness. The fact they may be back together because she will stop being too clingy is even more of a reason to be happy.

You are NOT being clingy and she might just even push him right back to you...That is, if you would even want him back, maybe you wouldn't. Your strenght might make him realize what a huge mistake he has made.

Give yourself some more time and work on you, the days will get better, I promise.
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AllenB, thanks for your reply, I guess that is my mistake, that I am still holding on to the memories and him. I am trying to work towards that day to let him go.
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Augyandad, I guess at first I was happy, because he thought he can find the grass to be greener somewhere else. I didn't think of it your way, but the funny part is that he would tell me that I wouldn't give him his space. He didn't want to be asked why he was coming home at 2:00 am on weeknights. What does he expect, any woman is going to want some commitment. Have a good one.
CanadianRose
CanadianRose
we care cos we are Caring People.. emotional, alive pple..

not uncaring and dispassionate pple like the creeps who are making us miserable.
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You've watched him leave and find another woman. Fling, fantacy, or finality. You should live your life like its finality and if it turns out to be either of the other two, you will be in more control to make the get back together/not get back together decision. Gooed luck; I'm betting on you ..
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You've watched him leave and find another woman. Fling, fantacy, or finality. You should live your life like its finality and if it turns out to be either of the other two, you will be in more control to make the get back together/not get back together decision. Gooed luck; I'm betting on you ..
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CanadianR, thanks for your response. I love your profile icon, it made me smile. Yes, I guess I care too much!
lkc9528
lkc9528
No advice just feel the same...how do you have several days that are fine..then your mind wonders. It makes me grouchy and easily irritated. And I cry non stop. Your not stupid only human. I found a spider in the house today..need my oil changed...and my daughter pushed my limits...it takes everything I have to pull it together...and not lose it completely...good luck.
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You can't just turn off your feelings. This person was important to you and a large part of your life. You are not stupid- you are normal and these are normal feelings.
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pgascott, Thank you for your words. You are right...
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Yes, we are caring, compassionate people. That is why we have so many different emotions twirling around in us. We HAVE to think "positive" WE ARE WORTH MORE THAN THEY ARE WILLING TO GIVE, etc. YOU have to be happy with YOU before you can be happy with anyone else. "Keep Your Chin Up!!~!" You're in my prayers.
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Thank you, Thank you for your words of support. I agree I have always been a very caring person, and my STBX never appreciated that of me, but took advantage of it. I am so blessed and thankful to have found this site and to have all of you for support. You are all in my prayers and I know God must have something bigger and better in the end. Starting to smile....:)
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